Is It Wrong To Not Be Excited About A BFP After A M C

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jenn W - June 10

I have been trying to get pregnant for over 1 1/2. I had some success a few months ago, but miscarried. I just got a BFP and can't get excited because I'm worried. I had my blood drawn yesterday and will have it taken again on Wednesday for my quanitative blood test to make sure my levels are where they should be. I really want Wednesday to get here and I'm so scared. Don't get me wrong, I want a baby more than anything, but I want to be cautious since the last BFP turned out to be such a blow. If anyone can let me know if they've felt the same way I'd appreciate it.


alicef - June 10

Hi Jenn, I can completely sympathize with you right now. I had a missed miscarriage in Dec. and got a BFP mid-May. Ever since then, I can't seem to enjoy this pregnancy. i started HCG levels at what I swore was week 5.5. They did not double in 48 I got stressed out. At 6 weeks I went for an U/S and the tech told me I was only 4 weeks...impossible...that would put my BFP at conception. Had the HCG done again at 6.5 weeks (4.5 according to the U/S) and it rose a few thousand again, but I had some spotting. I have been waiting the last week and a half for an U/S this Friday to see if this pregnancy is viable or not. I just want to get to the point where I can breathe easy and try to enjoy it. I hope that is possible??? I hope that your next HCG test goes very well and that it takes away some of the stress and anxiety for you. Let me know how it goes?? Good luck


cynnababy - June 10

What you are feeling is very normal. After a miscarriage, we are no longer the same anymore. I was constantly nervous and terrify that something might happened when i was pregnant. I couldn't allow myself to get attached to my baby until i pa__sed first trimester. I was a constant mess all throughout my pg until I had my baby.


K - June 10

Completely normal. I got pregnant after 3 years of trying only to m/c (blighted ovum). It took another year to get pg again. I was terrified. Even after the 1st ultrasound showed a baby and a healthy heartbeat, I could not let myself be happy because I was too scared. Once I got past the 1st trimester, I relaxed and the rest of the pregnancy I was extremely happy, especially after a 16 week level II with 3d ultrasound which showed what appeared to be a a healthy normal little girl (she was). Hopefully, you will get to a point where you can relax and enjoy being pregnant.


eclipse - June 11

I was terrified my entire first trimester of every twinge or feeling. What helped me feel better was with my second (and ultimately successful) pregnancy I got wicked morning sickness that I did not with my first pregnancy that resulted in a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. That actually put my mind at ease, I know it is weird. Plus once I had my 20 week ultrasound, life was good. I really did ok after my 13 week one, I tried to relax and take a positive att_tude because I didn't want stress to impact the baby as well. So I hope you can step back, breathe, and get to a point where you can enjoy the pregnancy, whatever it takes for you. AND CONGRATULATIONS!!!


jenn W - June 11

Thank you so much for your encouraging words. It makes me glad to know I'm not awful for feeling this way. I go for my second blood test today and I can barely breath I am so worried. Alice, I'm praying for you. For the rest of you, if you are pregnant or trying baby dust to you. Thank you all so much. You are helping me to breath a bit easier. I'll let you know what they say about my levels when I get results. THANKS!


beckybear - June 11

Seems perfectly normal to me. I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks on May 27, and D&C the next day, so it will be a couple months before I even get to try again. But I think I will be the same way as far as not wanting to get my hopes up if (hopefully WHEN) I get preggo again. I would actually prefer not to even tell anyone until I'm past 13 weeks next time, but that won't be possible since I love to have a beer (when I'm not PG) and they won't believe the same story I told last time, they will know if I abstain. My doctor said next time they will monitor me very closely, but he said I should just be positive and enjoy being pregnant, and let them worry about testing and numbers and such. I will really try to do that, I know stress does have an effect on our bodies. Plus, I don't want to let this loss come in the way of enjoying one of the most amazing miracles of life. I suppose easier said than done. Congrats on your BFP and good luck, I hope everything goes well.


jenn W - June 13

Beckybear....I'm saying a prayer for you.....


alicef - June 13

O.K. So ultrasound techs can be off by a few days and HCG doesn't always double every 48 hours. Had my U/S today after waiting 2 weeks and I am exactly where I thought I would be...7 weeks and 5 days, saw that little flicker going strong. There is hope yet. Jenn have you heard back on your levels?


jenn W - June 13

Yes, got them today...finally! 166 on Monday and 436 on, they are good. I am only 5 weeks tomorrow, so they are still a bit low. Alice I am sooo happy to hear everything is as you suspected. They make this process torturous enough, don't they????



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