Losing Gabrielle

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Definition - March 28

I was just released from the hospital after giving birth to my stillborn daughter. I dont even know where to begin, its a pain that I have never felt in my life. My whole pregnancy was fine. I went in for my last visit with the dr and he couldnt hear her heart beat, immedietly I was in the labor and delivery room. I was already having contractions and was dialated so labor was already started. But what went wrong. I had everything set, new crib, clothes, diapers. My 15 yr old son was so excited and now our world is upside down. Please if anyone can help me understand this. I dont even know what I am supposed to do now. They came in and asked me what I wanted to do cremation or burial. After just loosing my daughter I am supposed to answer that question ? what is wrong with the health care system these days, no condolenses for loss. The cause, after they examined the placenta they said it was separation of the placenta. I was in a car accident in Sept. Would this be the cause ? Its as though I cant even move from one spot, since I have been home without my Gabrielle it seems like a horrible nightmare that I will wake up and she will be in my arms. I dont know what to do now !!


sarah21 - March 29

I'm sorry I have no words that could even begin to bring comfort to you. My heart aches for you. There is no explanation that even comes close to making what happened right or better, or more acceptable. Time will help ease the pain but there will always be a special place in your heart for Gabrielle. I'm sure women on here have much better words to comfort you with than I am finding, I am just so sorry and you are in my prayers.


Mrs.Hath - March 29

Oh Definition.....I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. This is a horrific tragedy that we just can't understand. Separation of the placenta seems to be a common diagnosis among stillborn babies. For heavens' sake, I don't know why it happens. It's just not fair. To come all this way......and not have your sweet Gabrielle in your arms. I've lost 2 babies now and I'm on my 3rd pregnancy. Every single day I am completely worried sick. I think every hour is the last with my baby. I can't enjoy it at all. I know you are in a very dark place right now. I hope that you one day find hope and joy again. My sincere thoughts are with you.


HopefulK - March 30

Hello, I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. I too lost my daughter in 2005. There are no words of comfort I can give you because nothing will make you feel better. It is such early days on this road don't expect too much of yourself. My only advice is that when it gets too much don't try and take it a day at a time, but a minute at a time. Literally watch the clock until that minute is over, breathing in and out, then if you need to, focus on the next minute. It will eventually be five minutes and so on. I just want to say it will get easier to deal with. You never get over it, you are forever changed by the fact your angel is not with you and you cannot watch her do all the things we long to do as mummies. However, you will find a way to integrate her into your life, your own special way, so she's always with you. One day, I promise you will not have to remind yourself to breath in and out. Just not someday soon. Be kind to yourself and remember your son and husband who have also lost their beautiful daughter and little sister. xxx


TrevorsMommy - April 17

I am sorry for your loss and that you have to go through this pain. I know what you are feeling first hand. My husband and I lost Trevor Dec. 30th at 40.2 weeks. I can honestly say that it gets better, but here I am in the 4th month and it's still bad. Especially with all the pregnant people around me. Please take care. You'll be in my thoughts....



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