Pregnancy After Emergency C Lost Both Boys

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Kris - November 10

I have recently (Oct 17th) given birth to tein boys at 24 weeks. Both passed away. (One liv ed 16 hours one lived 6) My husband and I are crushed. I had an emergency c-section to give the boys a better chance at survuval. (One was severely bruised and weak) I am trying to pick up the pieces and move on. (Not forget about myh boys because I still cry every day!) My most difficult moment was watching my husband hold his 1 lb 7 oz boys and weep and repeat over and over, I deserve to be a father....he is right! My question is how long do you have to wait after a c to start trying again? I know doctors reccomend 12-18 months between births, but I also know it rarely happens on the first try. Any advice???

 

Lynne - November 10

I had an emergency vertical c section on 07/19/05. My son lived until 08/31 he pa__sed in the NICU due to complications of NEC. I was told by my regular ob to wait 1 year. HOWEVER I did speak with the physician who delivered my son who is a high risk OBGYN/Perinatologist and he said that is not true. He wants me to come in after the first of the year for a consult and he told me that if all looks okay, then he sees no reason why we can't try immediately for another son. I am so sorry about what you have been through. If you would like to talk I am here. My son was born weighing 1lb 12 3/4 oz at 25.1 weeks. He was perfect, I cannot believe I am having to deal with his loss. (I was diagnosed with Incompetent Cervix) I wish you peace during these coming months and years.

 

Lynne - November 10

I am sorry after January we can try for another baby. Who knows what we will have :-)

 

Kris - November 10

Lynne...Thanks for your reply.I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Bothe of my sons were the most beautiful tiny babies I have ever seen and I am devestated.I am also curious what your doc says about the incompetent cervex (I had the same issue) My doc said 3 mos we could try and they were thinking of doing a cerclage. I guess I don't understand why they are just "thinking" of the procedure...I never want to go through this again!! My c-section was not vetical and they were able to glue the outside..I am very lucky. I am thinking we will try again in Jan....I don't care what we have just as long as he or she is healthy. I have never felt so bad in my whole life! I have run through all of the emotions, guilt, anger, sadness....I also worry how this will affect my relationship with my husband. He has been very supportive, but we all grieve at different paces and he can move on much quicker than I!! Please keep in touch and let me know when you are expecting again! [email protected]

 

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