Scare Of A 2nd Miscarriage

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amy - May 2

I had my first missed miscarriage 2 weeks ago, had my d&c one week ago. I can't shake these nervous feelings about a second miscarriage. I am definitely going to try again but I know my second pregnancy is not going to be the same, I feel like everything has been tarnished by this m/c. I know if I get pregnant again I will spend the whole first 4 months scared of another miscarriage. Does anyone else feel their miscarriage is more than just a miscarriage, that it has spoiled future pregnancies as well?

 

amy - May 2

that should read "scared of a second miscarriage", not "scare of". I'm not Yoda contrary to my typo. Anyway ....

 

mm - May 2

Hi Amy, I know just how you feel. I have had a few miscarriages, as well as three successful mpregnancies. My 1st pregnancy ended in miscarriage, so every other pregnancy was filled with doubt and worry. I always wished I had the freedom to share my pregnancies right away, but I always worried about having to tell everyone if I did in fact miscarry. One of the best things I did was to get some counseling during the first trimester. It also helped me to deal with the grief. That and a lot of prayer! Anyways, I wish you many blessings in the future. When I look at each of my kids (after having so many miscarriages) I realize what a blessing and miracle they are.

 

melody - May 2

my 3rd pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 18 weeks. I was heartbroken but I was told from the begining that it was a big possibly that it was going to end that way. So when it happened i was still shocked even though I got my hopes up.Anyway it took another 1 half years before I got prenate again and I was scared up until just a few weeks ago. I am now 33 weeks and everything is going well. I hope everything goes well for you the next time around. keep your hopes high.

 

Nora - May 3

I feel the same way. I worry about the whole pregnancy, not only the first three months. I know I would be very happy if I get pregnant again, but I would be very worried too. And I would be worried until the day that baby is born. In the past I used to say "when I have kids..." now I say "IF I have kids..." This was very hard for me and I can only go through this one time. If my next pregnancy ends up being a miscarriage it will be the last time I try.

 

Nora - May 3

I'm in the same boat, I am going to try again and if I miscarry again I know I will just stop trying after that. It's like now I only have a 50/50 chance of ever having kids.

 

Amy - May 3

I meant to type To Nora in that last post.

 

Nora - May 3

Amy, I'll keep my fingers crossed for both of us then : )

 

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