36 Not Married Unplanned Pregnancy Scared To Death

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magicmom - December 7

I'm 36 w/ two children ages 6 and 14. I really didn't plan on having another baby but thought there was a slight chance which is why I wasn't sterilized after my youngest son was born. I'm not together w/ my childrens' father and I've been dating a guy that's 10 yrs younger than me. I just recently found out that I am pregnant and I'm scared to death. He seems fine with it but I am absolutely stricken with depression and anxiety. I don't know what to do and I have nobody to talk to. This is only supposed to happen to young women. I just feel so alone and like I'm losing my mind more and more every minute. :-(


Aspen8 - December 22

MAGICMOM - are you still out there? I can't believe no one who surfs these boards answered your post. (I tend to just read and post on one particular thread. I usually don't even read the t_tles of the other threads...just go directly to the one I'm active in.) I'm wondering how you're doing and if you feel any better about your situation. As desperately as I want a child now, I remember being just as desperate to avoid pregnancy in the past and the sheer terror/dread/suffocation when I thought I might have b__wn my birth control. How are you?


HelloDolly - December 22

Oh, I am here for you too! I just signed up today. I am 41 and want to get pregnant!! I have a girlfriend that is 39 and got pregnant with the guy she has been dating for 6 months!! Talk about a big suprise!! We are planning this one. But she has embraced the fact that it was meant to be and you know what, it will all work out. It really will. That is kinda why I have decided to have another. I have three from my first marriage, they are 17, 16, and 13 now. I am in a very commited relationship now and he only has one child. So, started in Jan. we will be activily trying to get pregnant. But I will check here daily for you!!! K


Mnt2BaMom10 - January 4

MagicMom: I joined this forum just to respond to your post. I am 36 years old, single with two boys, ages 19 and 8. After six years I reunited with my 8-yr old son's father and became pregnant--I am due in about 3 1/2 wks--with ANOTHER BOY. Believe me, I understand just how you feel: alone, out of place, thinking "I'm too old to be doing this c___p again", the list goes on and on. I've looked in the mirror with my belly looking like I swallowed a basketball and have cried, asking myself "How can this happen to me...AGAIN?" Maybe I was just being hormonal... ;-) I've spilled a lot of tears over this, wondering who I'm disappointing; my family not being as supportive as I'd like; worrying about finances; etc. If my post can be of any consolation to you, just because a lot of ppl haven't responded to your post doesn't mean in the least bit that you're alone: I'm proof that you're not. Through each tear I've cried, and each prayer I've prayed, I find myself realizing that God will not put more on me than I can bear, and even though it doesn't seem like it, I'm more prepared for this than I thought. I've become even stronger with each tear. And you, my dear, will too. EVERYTHING, regardless to it being good, bad or unexpected, happens for a reason, and this too will be part of your life story. Hold on to the ppl who are the most supportive to you, esp your children--they will love you no matter what. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, but don't stay there too long: your unborn child senses what you feel. Dry your face, put yourself together, consider the good things you have going for yourself, and ALWAYS KEEP IT MOVIN'. Speak positive things/statements out loud to yourself, even though you may not feel like it. I'm gonna get through this, and you will too.


moblessed - July 17

Hi Ladies, it's been a while since this thread was active, but I am here not by accident. I just learned 3 days ago that at the age of 38 (39 in one month) that I am pregnant. I too have felt like this should only happen to teenagers; not educated, intelligent women like me. What a joke! My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and between the two of us have 6 children from previous marriages. Neither one of us want to raise another child, but at the same time see this child as a blessing no less special than the 6 we already have and abortion is not an option. So, we have decided to go through with it and select a birth family for her. I have several good friends who have adopted, and one who was adopted; it is a wonderful solution for us. It may seem strange for two people who are in love to let someone else raise their child, we just feel that we can really bless someone who is not quite as fertile as we are with our gift. May all of you be blessed in your decisions and may your babies be healthy and full of vitality!



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