45 And Pregnant Again

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Jami - October 8

I am 45 years old and expexting my 3rd child. I have 2 daughters, 23 &10 years old. This time we're having a boy! What I thought was early menopause turned out to be a baby! Just wondering if anyone else out ther is in the same spot with much older children and a baby on the way.


Tammy - October 9

Jami- I am also 45 and have a 20 yr old daughter and a 4 yr old son and am also expecting a boy on 10/28. I don't quite know if I thought this was menopause, but I was clearly in denial. I have had a really great pregnancy, aside from the usual last month stuff. I am at the point where I want it to end now...Last night my son, my husband, and myself put the crib together and the bedding on. It made it very real. Me and my husband looked at each other and said "in a few weeks we are having another baby in this house!!" It is sometimes sureal. Good Luck with your pregnancy, When are you due?


Pam - October 9

I'm 41 and thinking about having my 1st baby. The statistics I'm reading are really scary.....what have you learned to be the truth?


Milie - October 11

I was 29 and my husband was 23 when we had our first child. Over the years my husband has said he was too young to be a father, he had been missing all the fun of being a single young guy like his friends. Now he is 30 and we are expecting our 3rd child. He's still saying he's too young to have so many kids already while all of his friends are still single. I guess no matter what age you are, you just have to make the best out of it: )


Maidencanada - October 12

I am 41. I have a 19 year old and a 14 year old, and a new hubby. I miscarried in July and am trying to conceive again. Some people think I am crazy to want another baby at my age but other people like my mom thinks differently. My mom is now 61 and she says she wishes she had of had a child while in her forties. That way instead of only having grandchildren to hug and give back she would still have teens in the house and she thinks that that sounds wonderful. My kids think it is great and were sad when I miscarried the last time. So congratulations and enjoy your baby!


susan - October 18

yes i have 3 daughters 23,22,19 and i have i little boy 15 months with my secound marrige and have another baby on the way 5 weekspregnant and i feel great our little boy keeps me on my feet but its werth it.


Silent_Wish - May 5

just read these great responses. Ive just turned 45 and im 21 days late although ive had 7 neg tests?. My doc did a blood test and the results were due today but ive been told they wont be back til Mon or Tues. We are so upset as we really want a little boy together ive never been late b4 always early. Any view or comments welcome.


Kristin72 - May 5

I just wanted to say congratulations..I am 38 and pregnant in my 12th week..with my first.. I too hope to have one more after this one ;)..Again congrats..how far along are you? Kristin


Perl - May 9

Jami: I'm not in the same spot as you but just had to say CONGRATULATIONS to you!!! I also wanted to let you know that my brother and I have a 13 year gap in age between us (I was 13 when he was born). I feel closer with my little brother than I do with my sisters who are 4 and 5 years older than I am. I have no doubt your daughters too will adjust to the age gap and will be great helpers while they dote on their baby brother. To the husband who wrote "To Pam": you're still young and unless some unforeseen thing or illness happens to you, you will most likely be either 60 something or 70 something when your grandchild from your last child is born (depending on whether he/she has a child in their 20s or 30s), less likely that you'll be 80 something if they wait til their 40s. Either way, my own grandma is 87 and just starting to lose some of her spunk and energy but she's still very capable and very much alert and full of energy. The 70 year olds that I know are still full of loads of energy, taking trips overseas every year, driving all around town and involved with their hobbies with no problems. Don't worry that you won't know any grandkids--you most likely will. Besides, your own children will keep you younger longer.


elianah - May 9

Hi JAmi, I'm new here. Congrats on your pregnancy. I am 7 days late. Did you feel warm. I don't feel like I have temperature but I feel hot a lot. I also took 2 home preg. tests and they were both negative. Last test was yesterday. When should I test again? Thank you


Andrea H - May 10

For the ladies pregnant and over 35 years, did you use any kind of fertility aide? I'm 38 and have one 4 year old but we keep trying for another. Since 2004, I've had one tubal (lost my left tube), one miscarriage, and right now I'm waiting on results of my HCG levels to see if this one is viable. I'm pretty sure I don't have a fertility issue, but as I get older and keep losing pregnancies, I get worried about my eggs getting old and wonder if I'll need to resort to fertility aides. Any thoughts?


Perl - May 10

Andrea: First, congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope it all works out this time for you. I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through--loss of a tube and a miscarriage. I'm 37 and also had a miscarriage last year but, no I did not use any fertility treatment to become pregnant again (in my 12th week now). However, with one tube does your Dr. advise other options so that you protect the other tube? Only thing is that you needed to be a little more patient since it takes a little longer to wait for pregnancy right? You've gone through a lot in two years and I'm sure there were months right after the tubal pregnancy and after the miscarriage (at least about 6 months I'm guessing) where you may not have been trying to conceive. I hope this pregnancy will work out perfectly for you--good luck on your test results!


Karena - May 11

Hi i am 37 with a 17 year old daughter, a 13 year old son and a 2 year old son I have just found out that I am 12 weeks pregnant with my 4th child and exhausted. I haven't told my older children yet I think my daughter will freak although she dearly loves her little brother now she was not at all happy the last time and I am not sure how to approach the subject any ideas?????


Andrea H - May 11

Thank you Perl for the congrats but unfortunately the results were not good. My doctor said it isn't viable. I didn't mention in my posting that after the tubal in 2004, we tried when it was safe to do so without success. I read about Fertilaid on Babycenter.com and tried it. I was pregnant within 3 weeks of using it. But that was the miscarriage last Nov. 1. So, in March I tried it again and was pregnant again (this one). I emailed the product manufacturer and they a__sure me that it would not be cause for miscarriages. So, I'll wait to pa__s this one and then some and try again. I'm just worried my eggs are getting old!! BTW, I'll be 39 in August.


Betul - May 11

Andrea, have you had a FSH test to check the quality of your eggs? it is a simple urine test done around day 3 of your cycle. It may put your mind to rest. Also I used the FertilAid too after one year of ttc and was pregnant my next cycle! I turned 39 in March and I am currently 19w. (When taking the FertilAid, did you take it only from day one of your cycle until ovulation? )


Andrea H - May 12

Betul - Thanks for that info. I'll have to ask my doctor about the test. I've never mentioned my concern about my eggs. I will this time. She's great and so optimistic and will probably to anything! I think I took the Fertilaid either right after my cycle or right when I started. I do know that I stopped when I suspected I was pregnant. What did you do?


Perl - May 12

Andrea, I'm so sorry and can imagine the disappointment and hurting you're going through now. I like Betul's idea, I hope that works for you like it did for her. Discussing your concern about your eggs with your Dr is definitely a good idea, she or he may rea__sure you that it isn't or help you get to to the source of the problem. It sounds like you have a compa__sionate doc I hope they offer you more options and info. *** Karena, What reason does your daughter have for freaking out that you're pregnant? If she wasn't happy the last time but loves her little brother now just remind her about that. I'd be more concerned with the 2 year old than the 17 year old--she's older and should be more mature about it now realizing that it's your decision and if there's any freaking out to be done it should be on your part not hers---not that you need to freak out at all but the point is she needs to let you do the worrying and she should focus on her own life and future. Rea__sure everyone that you can do this and everything will be okay! You have to say it like you mean it though.



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