Feeling Like You Are Going To Be A Bad Mom

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mommybabyboy21 - January 29

Ok, I am 22 wks pregnant and yesterday I was paying my bills and notice that I was going to be short. I ended up borrowing money from my mother who says I don't have to pay her back, but I feel like my little boy isn't even here and I am failing him already. I felt like a failure my son already because his father has disappeared. Well I know where he is but the father has no money and only demeans me now...because I won't kill my little boy. So I had resloved to do this all on my own...(well with my family's help but without a father). And I was doing fine, until yesterday when I couldn't pay all my bills. And now I can't stop crying and thinking that I am going to mess my son up. Am I the only one who is freaking out about being a mom? Tell me that ever mom freaks out while the baby is still in the oven.


TamaraAngel - January 29

Congratulations on your baby boy! I will be a single mom too... and i know money will be tight. Babies need love and attention... not money. You'll be fine. Babies are a dream-come-true and if your ex doesn't see it that way, you and your son are better off without him. By the way, you're already a good mom simply b/c you chose life! And that's the best gift you can give your baby!! :o)


aliciavr6 - January 30

Congrats - everything always works out, you will be fine, especially with family (your mother) around just in case! You will figure out how to make ends meet.


suze42 - January 30

I couldnt agree w/Tamara more (and tamara you are already a good mom too) To choose life is the first and best gift you could give your baby. Once he's here, you will not regret your decision for a second. Instead of dooming yourself for failure..start making a plan for a better life for you and baby. It wont be easy..nothing is...but think about your own education, further training you can do to advance your job, way s to save $$ and just KNOW that you are going to do it.


mommybabyboy21 - January 30

The bill that I couldn't pay was my student loan...I have my degree and a great job...for just starting off in my career but that's the other thing I just graduated in June got this job in Aug, and got pregnant in Sept. It was like bam bam bam. I make what is good money...I guess I just have to manage better or something. I just think that I am going to do something wrong. but I guess I'll get over it when he is here because I already love him to death. I smile and want to play with him when he is kicking me or moving around. Now I just have to find some maternity clothes...I am 6'2" and my inseam for pants is 36 1/2. I usually have my jeans specail made but that is $50+ and I don't want to spend that much for a pair a pants that I am only going to wear for four more months.


suze42 - January 30

Im glad you feel lyour career is a positive! Sounds like its just a matter of figuring out how to manage. your'e going to do fine. Everyone worries! but the fact is once the little baby is here, you just want to be a good mom and take care of him. Its innate!


suze42 - January 30

Have you tried Motherhood maternity stores? Im not sure about having tall sizes (im only 5'3 lol) but the prices are awesome. I spent 30.00 on jeans and I love them, wear them everyday almost.


aliciavr6 - January 30

mommybaby - My student loan kills me too ($350+ a month) and I'm HORRIBLE with money management and budgeting so I know how you feel. I'm tall too with very long legs, I just found this site: alloy.com They have tons of jeans with a 37" inseam, of course no maternity jeans, but for after, maybe it'll come in handy



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