Porn

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carol23 - May 22

Last night, i was going through my computer as I usually do and looking at files, and I found quite a few p___n files that my husband has been downloading. He's also been looking at these websites (I look at the history on the comp cause we've had problems with him before) that I don't approve of. Not only do i feel very unattractive right now, I mean, don't get me wrong, i love being pregnant, but I don't feel 100% myself right now you know? Should I confront him about these things? Or should I just let it slide? I don't know what to do. It does make me feel bad about myself though because he's looking at all these girls with gorgeous bodies and here I am all fat. I also feel bad because I just recently quit working and I have no reason to get dressed up and when he gets home from work, here I am in sweats and my hair is up and I have on no make-up. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have advice for me?

 

les22 - May 22

its a hell of a lot better than cheating on you. just make a joke of it like "do you want a pic of me to put on one of the sites?" if you feel bad about the way you look then fix your hair and put on some make up. it will make you feel better

 

mandee25 - May 22

I am in the same boat because my man likes to look at p___n too but I know he loves me completely and it's just something he is curious about I guess. I know how you feel but I would confront him about it so that it's out in the open.

 

mcatherine - May 22

Carol, I feel bad for you. I know it is tough to find out your husband is looking at other women online. I can't think of one single married friend I know that it hasn't happened to yet. I'm not the type of person the objects to it as long as it stays within reason. Men are visually stimulated - women aren't, so I just accepted a long time ago that it was just another thing I would never understand about men. My husband and I made a deal. He subscribed to Playboy and stays off the internet. That way, we know the women are of age and consenting. He doesn't even open it for weeks after it gets here most of the time. I am in my 25th week and I lost my waist a long time ago. I don't feel pretty, I haven't been able to sleep in lingerie in over two months and I certainly don't feel very graceful in bed. I don't work either, but every single day I get up and go to the gym, come home take a shower and get dressed and put on makeup. I reserve the sweats and ponytails for the days I just don't feel so good - so when he sees me like that, I get a lot more TLC. Although I do it for myself, I know it makes a difference to him. Please remember one thing - all of the gorgeous women with great airbrushed bodies aren't carrying his child. They aren't growing your family's legacy inside of them. Take it a little easier on yourself. I bet you look wonderful and radiant. Try talking to him instead of confronting him. Don't tell him it angers you to know he is looking at p___n, but that it makes you feel bad about yourself, especially while you are pregnant. Chances are - he doesn't want to hurt you more than he needs to look at it. Good luck...

 

SuzieQ - May 22

Carol- exact same thing happened to me too a few months ago. The p___n files I found on his computer were clips and not too crazy for my taste thankfully. I confronted him, didn't spaz out or anything, and told him that I was his wife now (recently married) and didn't want him to hide stuff from me. He said he felt kind of embara__sed and somewhat ashamed to know that I knew he looked at p___n but I just rea__sured him that it's so normal. I don't personally like p___n very much, but I know it's easily available and he's mature enough to know where the lines are. (morally and how the industry affects women) He says he doesn't chat online, which I would have a HUGE problem with, and I believe him. Also, your body is different now (obviously) and your shape will return one day - just make sure you tell him how you feel and I'm sure he'll do his best to make you feel better :)

 

AmyB - May 22

my husband looks at p___n all the time...i dont care..to me it is a natural thing for men to do...like less said he is not cheating...now if he were talking to other girls or something like that then i would flip out but to me p___n is harmless and yes i know how you feel..you wonder why do you look at them skinny blonds but your with me..if thats what you wanted but you know it is just one of those things and trust me it is harmless...just hang in there!

 

Hana - May 22

Carol, my hubby watches p___n all the time and i join in sometimes! We try to choose to soft p___n thats done tastfully. I dont really care if he watches it by himself. I know id notice if a hot guy pa__sed by, but it wouldn't mean a single thing, it would be like admiring a nice painting or nice house. I know for men, looking at beautiful women is just as shallow. I know i mean a hell of a lot more to my husband than some bimbo. Its all fantasy...if i did find out he was chatting etc, thats a different story because its a relationship but watching p___n aint a relationship, not in my opinion anyway. I dont feel pretty either...i hate how much weight ive put on and how quickly hair grows and how i can barely reach to shave lol But i do try to put some effort into makeup/hair/perfume/clothes (SOMETIMES) and it makes me feel better. If you can afford it, get a make over or pamper yourself at a spa. Most men i know worship a pregnant woman's body, but we just CANT see it or believe it lol My b___bs are leaking all the time so even the b___bs have lost their s_x appeal heheh Hang in there gals only a few more months!!

 

ITSABOY - May 22

Carol23 i feel the same way you do about this thats why i dont even have internet in my home.My man looked at it all the time when we use to have it.I dont think it is ok for a man to do this behind his womans back now if he does it before we have sez to get him and me in the mood thats ok but personally without me i do not like that.I feel the same as you i would just day this---You know what i really wish you would not look at p___n it makes me feel like you are not attracted to me anymore and see what he says!

 

ThePezChick - May 22

My husband looks at p___n. In the past I asked him to let me know if he did so I felt like I was included, not that it was something secret. We bought a digital camera that records 30 minutes of video. We've made a few videos before and since I've gotten pregnant. We've "hidden" them on our computer. Since we made the videos, which are just normal lovemaking, he's stayed away from online p___n. I don't have an issue either way, as long as I've aware of what's going on. I'd talk to your partner about it, get it out in the open without freaking out, and move on. Like so many other women said, it's a man thing.

 

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