Scared To Death Of Being A Single Mom

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Raychel - September 11

Hi everyone. I am 23 weeks pregnant, and I'm going to be a single mom. Me and my fiance has broken up, he's still too selfish and self-absorbed, (He's spent almost $2000 on himself this summer, but has not bought even a stuffed animal or a rattle for our lil boy) and I just don't see myself being with him, espically where he's not ready to grow up. Currently I am staying at my parents, they have been doing so much for me while he's been away at boot camp, supporting me and all, but I'm 19, and when I have this baby, I'm going to be so scared to be by myself. I'll have my family, but it won't be like being with my baby's father. Im so confused! I want us to be a family, but I'll know I'll be miserable with him. The only reason why I'd be marrying him is because I am pregnant, and I don't really love him. I'm just so scared to have a baby and be myself. Please help me!


jb - September 11

I dont think you should stay with him or marry him just b/c you are preg. You will regret it for the rest of your life. Im sure it is scary to be a single mom, but you sound very mature. You can do it! You have supportive family to help you and that is great. Plus maybe after a while your ex will start to grow up and be more supportive, and if you 2 decided to get back into a relationship, you can make the decision from there. There are alot of single moms out there doing a great job. I wish you all the luck.


jb - September 11

I forgot to mention you should try to find a support group or another forum or sometimes for single moms. That way you would know your not alone and could communicate with people you might be able to help you.


hunee - September 12

Hi Raychel, I had a baby when i was 18 and i too had a very selfish partner but i stayed with him and i married him for all the wrong reasons. it wasnt until our son was 1 year old that i finally decided enough was enough and we split. my son is now 6 years old and I have met a lovely bloke and we are having a baby in jan 06, the best decision i ever made for me and my child was getting rid of that selfish git and i have never been happier. Bringing up a baby on your own can be hard but bringing up a baby with someone who is more interested in their self is worse. Stick with it girl, cos happiness is just around the corner for you and your unborn child. good luck with it all



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