Tell My Mother In Law The Sex Or Not

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Amy - April 27

I am having my u/s on the 9th. My husband and I are going to find out the s_x of the baby. My mother in law wants to know but my father in law doesn't. I'm afraid if we tell her that she will ruin the surprise for my father in law. Do we tell her or not?

 

Misty - April 27

Your husband should know what to do in this case. I don't know this woman so I have no idea if she can keep a secret or not. But her son should know that. If anything, if he isn't sure, have him talk to his dad to see if he would mind you all telling his wife about the s_x. If your father-in-law says that he is o.k. with it then he loses the right to be mad at you if she slips up and says something. Plus, if father-in-law says no then mother-in-law will be mad at him for telling you that and not at you all. Haha, I talked my way through it I think. Have your hubby ask his dad what you all should do.

 

Amy - April 27

The mom says yes but the dad says no. My mother in law couldn't keep a secret if her life depended on it. She told me my husband was going to propose to me before he did. Im so confused.

 

Misty - April 27

Well hell then this becomes tough. It will be unfair to grandpa if he wants to be surprised and you know she will ruin the surprise. But it will be unfair to grandma if she wants to know and she can't because of him. I think it is even more infair though for you to have to be the one to decide. Because no matter what, one of them is going to get upset at you this way. Talk to both of them. Or have your hubby do it, and let them know that you understand that either way one of them is likely going to be disappointed and tell them they need to decide what is going to happen. The way they are doing things now it is like they are asking you to pick favorites, because you can only do what one wants, let them know that you just don't want to be in that position and they need to talk this over themselves and come to an agreement on it. Is going to suck, no doubt about it, but I think it will be the only fair way.

 

Amy - April 27

Screw it...this is too hard. Maybe we will tell them that we couldn't see anything on the u/s. Or that the baby had its legs tightly closed. I guess me and my husband are the only ones who needs to be happy right. Maybe thats selfish but oh well. If they can't agree and be happy thats their own problem. This is my time. Haha.

 

Misty - April 27

:-) There you go, why do people have to make it hard at a time like this anyways.

 

Amy - April 27

Yeah no kidding. The same day as my u/s is the day that my 2 and a half year old daughter is having her tosils and adenoids taken out and tubes put in both of her ears. Maybe they will just forget. Haha...yeah right!

 

Misty - April 27

And being selfish isn't always a bad thing anyways. This is your time, not theirs. Enjoy it. Or maybe even mess with them and say it turned out to be fraternal twins and you have one of each. :-) jk, good luck with whatever you do. I am sure you will get lots more advice tomorrow too, when everyone is up.

 

Misty - April 27

:-( Hugs for your daughter, and you. You both seem like you will need them.

 

Amy - April 27

Thanks Misty...it has been really nice talking with you. I haven't really had anyone talk with me alot yet since I am new on here. Hopefully I can meet some more ladies and just chat. Maybe we will chat again sometime. Thanks for your help.

 

Lynn - April 28

Just tell them.. if she ruins it for your father in law then that's her problem. He'll probably figure it out anyway because she'll start buying gender based clothes & stuff....

 

D - April 28

There is always the possibility that the baby WILL keep its legs tightly closed... so you might not know either! Unfortunately, I doubt that solves all your problems, though!

 

Amara - April 28

I would get both of them together and tell them they need to agree with knowing or not... if the can't... you won't tell them at all.

 

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