Old And Confused

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babySD - December 31

Hi! I'm 43 and have a 21 and a 16 y.o. I stopped using Nuvaring in Nov and my last period was Dec 02. My only signs of pregnancy before were swollen nipples and missing period. I've been quizzy now and then for the past two weeks - something that never happens to me, and I missed my period today. Hubby and I were wearing condoms, except from a few times, when he "held". He says I have nothing to worry about and I I know it's early to tell, but I'm so scared of the thought. Two "kids" are from previous marriage and we were not planning on this. Well, enough said that I joined the site to ask for advice. I'm old enough to be a grandma, and I get scared of the risks of old age pregnancy. Thank you for any words. bbSD


krissy2006 - December 31

Hey there, just so you know if a couple has s_x 4 days leading up to and the day of ovulation they only have a 25% chance of conceiving and that is if all variables are optimized such as no reproductive health factors between the man or woman, no recent birth control use, no age factors etc. So if you don't want to be pregnant you have a couple things to your advantage. Besides the small chance of pregnancy anyway, you are on the older side of the actively fertile spectrum (which means your eggs can be less viable and therefore less likely to fertilize and implant) Also because of your age it is possible that you don't ovulate every cycle. Now stick in the factor that you just came off the nuvaring (which is a hormonal birth control and can mess up your hormones and reproductive cycle anyway) and your chances decrease even further. For women who come off hormonal birth control who want to actively try to conceive it is recommended they wait anywhere from 3-6 months post birth control to try so that their cycles will regulate. Now bunch all this together along with the fact that your husband "held" and honestly (even though "holding" is never a sure fire birth control method) I believe your chances of pregnancy are very low. Of course there is always the possibility that you could be pregnant and if you are I would suggest taking an early home pregnancy test. Because you are now late for your period any test should pick up hcg if it is present in your system. If it is negative and you still don't get your period within another week or so I would test again as for some women hcg can take longer to produce than others. If your next expected period does not show I would suggest seeing your doctor about possibilities as to why it has not shown. Possibilities could be; pre-monopause, cysts (normal and usually disappear by themselves), endometriosis (scarring of the lining of the womb) or lack of ovulation which again could be early signs of pre-menopause. GL to you and I hope you get your answer soon. :) Happy Early New Year!


Grandpa Viv - December 31

The chances are high that your body is reacting to the absence of the Nuvaring hormones. The regularity of your periods were governed in the past by Nuvaring. Now you are on your own. Good luck!


babySD - December 31

Thank you for your answer. They were both very confrting=) Happy New Year!



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