Too Soon To Be Discouraged

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JenC - July 3

Okay, so month number 4 begins today. I know it isn't as easy as we think, but I'm feeling rather down today with the dreaded arrival of af. More down than I thought I would feel. I guess I started out all bright eyed about ttc and now I feel as though the excitement is fading and it's being replaced with frustration and a little sadness. Isn't this supposed to be a time of joy? It's only been 4 months and I know that it can take a little while, but, I'm feeling discouraged. I don't want to focus on temping and opk's....I want to enjoy the process without making it feel medical. Am I overreacting?


kaylas mom - July 3

you will be okay. i know that it doesnt seem like it but good things come to those who wait. all week i have been depressed b/c i thought that af was coming and i realized that it was supposed to be here today!! keep your fingers crossed. lots and lots of baby dust!!!


Grandpa Viv - July 3

Baby dust to you , JenC. Depending on your age, 4 months is about average before hitting the jackpot. You may be one of those who contributes to the average by taking longer than the speedy ones. Perhaps you could focus on the simple signs of ovulation - cramps, cervical position and cervical mucus - and bd in the days leading up to ovulation. Leave temping until later. Good luck!


JenC - July 3

Thank you to both of you for your responses. I appreciate any and all perspectives. I'm realizing the "ideal" situation may not occur and I'm trying to stay positive and remember that it will all be worth it in the long run! I feel better already, and I'm sure I sound ridiculous as some people fight a much longer battle sometimes!


kaylas mom - July 3

honey it can be 2 days or 2 years a wait is a wait. i understand. kep your head up and if you need any body to talk to let me know and i will give you my email address


Meghan - July 4

I know how you feel JenC, believe me. I am on my 4th month as well. Sometimes I get to thinking (because i am only 20) about all the girls My age or younger that Get pregnant so easily it seems but then dont even want thier babies...why cant I have that luck when concieving?I hope the best for you! and baby dust to you and everyone else ttc!


mira - July 4

I was thinking the exact same thing Meghan.. i cant even count the number of times girls i know got pregnant without even wanting a baby. And all those warnings when we were younger about getting pregnant. Now it seems that when you actually want it, it takes forever & so much effort to happen!! Keep your head up JenC, it'll be so worth the wait when it finally happens. Thats what i tell myself too :) baby dust ...


JenC - July 4

Meghan - are you past ovulation now or are you just starting your 4th month. Thanks all for your advice. I feel good today, a new start!


Lin - July 4

I felt that way after about four months of trying, too. If it ends up taking longer, just remember that it does get easier. The four month point is just the point that you get frustrated at the realization that it isn't as easy as you thought. I'm on month 7 myself. We started trying last November, and we recently just came off a 2 month break from ttc. At this point, I think I've entered the phase of indifference. If we're successful, we're successful, and if we're not, we're not. One thing's for sure - I won't be looking for people to sit through the 2ww with anymore. It's the chatting with people every day about every possible symptom that really draws your attention to it and causes you to become overly emotionally absorbed in it. Try not to focus on it too much. Hopefully we'll all have our bfps soon. Good luck!



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