11 Weeks And Just Found Out Here S My Story

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Renee - October 12

Hi Ladies, I've been checking out posts for a couple of days, as I started to suspect that I may be pregnant and thought I'd share my story. I need to vent a little too. Here goes......I just found out by a hpt yesterday morning that I am pregnant. I immediately went to my clinic to do another test and it was positive too. Here's the funny part. My now exboyfriend and I broke up at the end of August because I couldn't handle his drinking and disrespect anymore. We were together for 2.5 yrs. I since met other people and have been dating this really great guy for about a month or so now. See where this is going? I also stopped taking my birth control pills after the end of the 2.5 yr relationship because of severe melasma on my face and just wanting my body to be "normal" again. So my last period was July 23-27 and I assumed I hadn't had another one because my body was adjusting hormonally to being off the pill!! Turns out I am now 11 weeks (gestational time) and the babys father is the exboyfriend!! What a mess of c__p I have got myself into. The good news is that the current guy I am dating...the respectful one, wants to be here for me, and understands the situation that I actually got pregnant while on the pill and that I am not a bad person. I am thankful that I have a great guy and a close knit group of girlfriends that will support me through this. The ex, and his parents want me to have an abortion. I did that 11 yrs ago when I was in high school and I don't want to do that again. I am 28 now, and eventually wanted to be a mother, but I guess a higher power wanted it for me sooner than that. Also, I am a little concerned because of having alcohol and smoking for the weeks that I did not know. My symptoms were so nil, or such like that of af going to come, that it never even crossed my mind because of having been on the pill. Oh yeah, one more thing...my first real prenatal appt is on the 1st of Nov, in 3 weeks. I will be 14 weeks then, is that right to have 1st appt so late?? Maybe I will call and double check. Thanks for hearing me out....it helps to have chat buddies. Happy, healthy pregnancies to all!! Keep your spirits up!


Robyn - October 12

Hi Renee - congrats on your pregnancy! I was just wondering if you are sure that you are 11 weeks. Sometimes when you go off the pill, your period really changes a lot. I'm just thinking that you may have missed a month and that you got pg last month - would that be possible? If you do think you are that far along - try to get an earlier appt - 14 weeks is too far for a 1st visit. And then they may be able to tell you exactly how far along you really are. Good luck to you and the baby - I hope everything works out for you!


Renee - October 12

Thanks for responding Robyn. I was just able to change my appt to next weds, the 19th. I feel a little better. I am also going to request an ultrasound. About the 11 week thing, i was unsure at first too because of going off the pill, however they told me that it is highly unlikely that i would have gotten pregnant in september and that it is "almost" 100% that it happened in between end of july/mid august....i dunno, i'll keep the updates coming.


Robyn - October 12

I'm glad that you go an earlier appt. Its just something to put your mind at ease.Once they do your u/s, they will be able to tell you how far along you are. I have my first appt. on Tues. - I think I am 6 weeks, due in June. Good luck at your appt!


Renee - October 12

Oh my goodness.....the ex keeps calling me telling me how screwed up this situation is, that I need to use my brain and think about what this is going to do to everyone.....and telling me we need to hurry up and make an appt (for abortion) "before things get worse". I need to tell him that I am not going to have one but I am afraid.......ahhhh.


Robyn - October 13

Hi Renee, Are you going to have an abortion or are you just going to tell him that to keep him away? I can't imagine how difficult this is for you, I hope you have some support from family or friends - you can't go thru this alone. If you decide to have the baby - can you tell the father that he doesn't need to be involved - or do you just not want him to know that you had the baby? I don't know what to say - its a hard decision - but you seem mature enough to make a decision that is right for you. After your 1st dr. appt. maybe things will be a little clearer. Good luck to you.


Renee - October 13

Hi Robyn...No, I am not going to have an abortion. I am almost into my 12th week and I am going to make the best of this situation using the resources available to me, however scary it is going to be. I would love to tell him that I am going to, to keep him away, or even a possible miscarriage....but that doesn't seem right to me. The other thing is now that he called me last night threatening to take the baby away, via help of his parents, once it is born....he may have just been saying that out of anger but I know his parents very well and can't imagine his mother thiking that would be a good thing to do.....makes me sick to my stomach to think about it. The other thing is that my boyfriend is being very supportive....he is recommending that I not even answer the ex's calls and just ry to relax....its so hard to do when the ex is being so rude and mean to me.


Robyn - October 13

Hello again, Glad to hear you're keeping the baby - I don't think you will regret it! Its great that your new bf supports you so much too. I can't believe your old bf though - first he doesn't want the baby at all, now he's threatening to take it away? What's his deal? It may be hard to keep your pregnancy or birth a secret from him - the truth would come out sooner or later. It doesn't sound like you could reason with him at this time - so I'd say tell him that you don't expect any support from him and also doc_ment anything he says to you, especially any threats - it may be useful if you ever have to go to court for custody reasons. I believe he could also sign over his parental rights - so that legally he won't have anything to do with the baby. This journey is supposed to be a happy one - so just try to relax and don't stress. Easier said than done - but seriously - do the best you can to focus on your baby and avoid any drama with the old bf. Take care!


Christine - October 14

You sound exactly like me. I too got pregnant while on the pill. I also didn't know until I was 9 weeks pregnant because I had implantation bleeding that I thought was my period. Even though me and my boyfriends relationship is not that strong..we both did NOT want an abortion. Even though a lot of people around me were so eager to jump at the chance....(disgusts me). But i too was smoking and drinking up until I found out..so i was very scared. Everything seems to be going alright now. I am 37 weeks pregnant and excited to meet my son..Good luck and God Bless.


Renee - October 14

Thank you for your kind words Christine. As each day goes by i feel a renewed sense that everything is going to be alright. My current boyfriend is being so supportive and upbeat it makes me teary eyed when I think of how sweet he is towards me during this time. As for the ex, last night I decided to change my cell phone number because I can't deal with the hara__sment anymore. He even came to my house last night!! Thank God I wasn't here! Robyn---I have doc_mented all phone conversations, messages, threats, etc. just in case. I can't imagine how he feels though--probably really helpless, frustrated, and p__sed off. He already told me that his parents hate me and he hates me too. Nice huh? All I know is that I've made my decision and I'm sticking to it. It's about what is best for baby and I, because obviously the sperm donor doesn't feel that way, and I'm the only one looking out for me...well besides the sweetie boyfriend and friends and family. I'm gonna be alright!!! (deep breath)


To Renee - November 2

How is everything?


Renee - November 4

Everything is just fine!! thanks for asking. I am 13w 3d and really not feeling preggy at all except for the hunger and tiredness. So far so good!! Haven't talked to the ex much at all...he doesn't deserve any attention from me right now, and friends and family and current boyfriend are all by my side. :)



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