HELP -pg112857628918

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Julia - October 6

Did anybody have anyone else telling them that they should give their baby up for adoption? My own brother in law said that to me. My sister doesnt agree...but still. It hurts. And my ex-fiance's mom told me i had sooo much going for me and if she was me she'd give him up for adoption. What is wrong with these people? And why do they feel the need to tell something like that to a pregnant woman? Yes, I am single. And Yes, I am living with my sister and her husband until I can get on my feet, but I thought they were here to help. And I can only do so much. I've been here a month and since the day I got here ive been looking for a job. Im trying to apply for food stamps and all that c__p since Im having no luck with anything else, and im trying my hardest to just get on my feet. I can only do so much. Everyone just thinks I sit on my ass all day and do nothing. And it p___ses me off, cause im trying. I really am. He had me to the point where I thought he and everyone else was right. That i should give my little boy up for adoption. But, thats not what I want. And thats not what im going to do. IT just makes me so sad and depressed, cause Im in their house i dont want to be disrespectful.. And ive been in and out of homes all my life, and i just want to be somewhere safe for when my little boy comes into this world. I just feel so hopeless right now. I just want to be happy and I want people to stop telling me what to do with my son, and just support me. Because thats what i need. Anyone know what i can do?


angel - October 6

hi im sorry i know how you feel. i was pregnant at 19 and my boyfriend had left me and he didnt want to have anything to do with me or the baby so he was trying to force me to have an abortion. its really hard with all the pressure but you need to be the one who decides. dont let everyone else tell you what to do its your baby not anyone elses and you can make whatever decision you want. if you want to keep your baby dont let people tell you to give the baby up or make you feel bad about it. there is so much out there to help you and your boy and if your relatives are making you feel bad thats not right they need to be supportive of you. good luck i hope everything works out for u + ur boy :)


js - October 6

Tell them just that - if you're not going to support me, stay out of my way and shut up cause you're not helping the situation. :) They'll be too stunned to respond and will leave you alone and realize what they are saying is hurtful and will come around and help...


Sandi - October 8

Julia, You need to get out of that house. I was in your same situation 21 years ago. I was living with the father of my first child and his parents. It made me sick mentally and physically to even live there. They were trying to convince me to get an abortion. I am so glad now that I didn't. Try to get a job or get a__sistance and get the heck out of there! Make your own decisions and you will be much happier. If you don't want to give up your son then by all means DON'T!!! You will just regret it later. I know what you are going through because I am now in another bad situation and I am pregnant again. I now am on my fourth pregnancy and married and my husband left me. I do know that you are probably afraid to leave your boyfriend and his family, but in the long run you will be much better in your situation. It won't get any better if they don't care enough about your baby right now.


JJ - October 9

you gotta do what u want and u think is right. follow ur intuition. dont let anybody tell u something that u dont agree which usually means thre against u, not with u. just do wat u can to get back on ur feet gurl


me - October 9

I would try planned parenthood. They can probably point you in the right direction and maybe help you get the support you need. Good luck!



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