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nina - April 11

i am very confused i am 24yrs old my sister of 21 is having a baby my parents, especially father is upset and said he is embaressed of her, and my other sister is 25 has a 4yrold, she has good job her own house except she is single so my parents help her out alot, i just found out that i am preg.9wks, i don't want to abort, but fear my family and what my father is dealing w/ now, also the guy has said for me to abort he does not want a child, what can i do i feel alone, i feel like running away, iknow this wont solve anything, does anyone have advice, i feel i am being so disrespectful to my family.


Audrey - April 12

Nina- Why is your family embarra__sed? You are an adult and are capable of handling your own life. Don't let anyone force you into doing something you don't want to. Get informed about whether your best choice would be to abort/adopt/keep and stick with it. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for. Best wishes!


Mari - April 14

Sadly to say its really not about your family anymore.... it's about YOUR baby and she is your FAMILY and you are His/Her's. Your parents will come around to realize this, and it will be hard but its not about you anymore, its about BABY


ang - May 2

just do what is right for you whether it be abortion adopting or keeping it but remember you have to deal with your life and live with any decisions you make. Don't run away you will just keep running for the rest of your life just take care of yourself


Anne - May 3

Dear Nina, I can understand that this is probably such a frustrating time for you. I feel bad that I don't have any spectacular advice for you. I will tell you though that there are families who would adopt your baby in a heartbeat which I am sure you know by reading posts on these boards. I know that there is a lady named Cheryl on here who posts frequently - she and her husband are looking to adopt. They already have an adopted son and are very familiar with adoption. My husband and I are also looking to adopt. We have not yet adopted but are familiar with adoption and the different types of adoption. If this is ever something that may interest you, please let me know. My husband and I have an adoption profile and many photos. We would be happy to get to know you. Please take care of yourself and feel free to email me anytime. [email protected]


Cheryl - May 4

Hi Nina, I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I do hope things work out for you. Don't runaway it will only make things worst. And it will put more stress on your parents if you run away. You should talk to them. Maybe tell them you thought of running away but you love them too much. They might be upset at first but then they will be ready to talk and offer support. As Anne said there are many nice families on this forum looking to adopt and if you decide on the adoption option we would all be interested in talking to you and offering support and answering any questions you may have. What ever you decide I wish you all the best. Cheryl [email protected]



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