Is Castration Legal For Dead Beat Quot Dads Quot

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Mitzy - January 31

Last May, I met what I thought was the man of my dreams, fell head-over-heels for him.. Found out I was 5 weeks pregnant in September. I told him, and he has not spoken to me since.. not even the courtesy of telling me he doesnt want anything to do with it. He has a son from a previous relationship, and adores him. I am now 26 wks, and though it's been hard, I'm trucking on. People tell me that he will come around but I'm over it, there is too much hurt now. What am I to do if he comes back at a later stage?

 

g - January 31

To answer your opening question, I wish! Unfortunitly whether he pays or not he has legal rights to the baby. So check your laws where your at and talk to a lawyer. Theres not much more you can do. If your scared he will leave with the baby get child support orders that states when he can pick the baby up. Theres no guarentee with that either but it will make your child be safer. Remmber if you do go for orders he gets those rights, so its a hard descion to start something if your not sure he will ever come around. Like i said talk to a lawyer and see your laws. Good luck.

 

EmsMummy - January 31

I wish too. The "father" of my daughter chased around me and I thought he liked me, then when he got his way he ignored me. When I kept trying to tell him I was pregnant he didnt want to know at all. He wouldn't reply to any messages and has never even bothered to come and see her even though he lives near me. I met my fiance when I was 2 months pregnant. We were just close friends til a year ago. He helped me all through my pregnancy, and was at the birth, and has always treated my daughter as his own and I'm proud to say he's her daddy :o) I suppose you need to think if you want him involved? although unfortunately he does have a right to if he wishes, but as g said it would probably good to check with a lawyer. I gave my "sperm donor" every opportunity to be involved but he wasn't interested. Good luck to you and congratulations on your baby!

 

Yes - January 31

It's it starts with an Order to Withhold Income for Child Support, and ends with an administrative wage garnishment.

 

Jenn - February 1

mitz...I am in the same boat as you hon.. its going to be fine.. i am due may 12.. kicked out my dead beat bf at 10 weeks.. if he follows me around.. he will pay dearly to see his baby.. first off a 1000.00 dna test. and then CS for 18 yrs... not holding my breath.. dont stress out.... big hugs touching belly to belly...;)

 

K - February 2

This is what happened to me, my daughter's "father" as been on again, off again for almost 13 years! Everytime he calls, which happens in spurts like he'll be real interested for awhile, then not call for 6 months or so, I tell him either get your act together and start being a supportive parent or don't bother, then he goes on about how important she is to him but how he just can't seem to "find himself" and be the kind of father she deserves. She hasn't seen him since her 11th b-day, and has probably only talked to him maybe 10 times in about 2 years. She knows he's a loser, and she and I have discussed his shortcomings many times. She understands that he was young when she was born, and that he has had trouble with drugs and alcohol ever since his teens, and she says she's not bitter or hurt by his inattentivness, but I still worry all this c___p he's done to her will have lastinfg effects on her future. At this point, I can honestly say she would be better off without him in her life at all, you know? I know that sounds cruel, but he's been such a jerk, and I know that deep down she probably feels neglected, who could blame her?I am responsible for all of this she has had to deal with, too, and that is very hard to swallow for me, I NEVER wanted this to happen. I was young and stupid, I know that's not a good excuse, but it's the only one there is. There isn't anything I can do now for her except be supportive, and that may not be enough.

 

Sasha - February 2

Everytime I hear a story like yours I get panicky and think, "is it the same guy that got me pregnant?" But I doubt it. The same thing happened to me. He just disapeared and I haven't heard from him, not even to say that he doesn't want anything to do with me. He has a son from a previous relationship that he sees. I figure that he doesn't want anything to do with ME and that is why he doesn't want anything to do with my/our daughter. I guess he had a better relationship with the last lady, but not me.

 

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