Should I Have An Abortion Or Should I Have A Child Quot

47 Replies
Amy - September 20

I just found out that i'm pregnant. I have a bf i love but i've been sleeping with another man from my work. I don't know who is the father. My boyfriend and this guy prefer that i have an abortion- though the guy from work says i have a choice., whereas my bf doesn't seem to think i do! My best friend says that if i think i will regret it then i shouldn't do it. However, about 6 months ago if you had said to me...if you get pregnant would you have an abortion? the answer would have been yes. Now that i am pregnant, although i know that if i decided to keep it ppl at work would judge and my parents would be gutted.I still feel that it's kind of unfair for me to play god and end this babies life. I put my hand on my stomach,and feel maternal. Never before have i ever had a desire to have a child- nor do i now. I just know it would be wrong to have an abortion in away. What do you think. I'm really worried. Please help! Thankyou x


brucen - September 20

People are going to judge you regardless, do what you feel is best for you. This is a choice only you can make as you have to live with whatever you decide.


Shorty - September 20

Dont allow people to push you into what they want you to do. In the end, the choice that you make has to sit well with you.If you dont want to play god, then dont. Play the mother instead.


E - November 6

Amy, sounds like you answered your own question. You want this baby, not because you have an urge to be a mother but because it is a part of you that you cannot deny. Good luck and be true to yourself. One guy at a time:)


Karen - November 7

A close friend of mine recently found out that she could never have children and it was devastating to her. Keep in mind that typically an abortion is harder on a woman's body than what child birth is. There are alot of wonderful people out there that would be more than happy to give your baby a home if you decide to have it and place it. Abortion is a cop out in my opinion. It is also the easy way out and a way not to take responsibility. My best friend had an abortion in high school and now over 10 years later STILL regrets it.


michele - November 22

girl, please, this is not about any of these men, this is about a life that you are caring inside of you, you should be worried about these babies youare caring okay.


Nattie - November 22

I'm having a similar problem. You do what you think is best for you. There's always adoption alternatives. I'm not saying it's the best thing to do, but if you're not ready for the baby and can't go through with the abortion it's a start.


megan - November 29

dont do anythig that you dont want to do. i had an abortion for my bf and i regret it ever since.


Carmela - November 29

If you don't want to have an abortion then don't, just realize that if you keep the child, it is very, very challenging to be a single parent, even when both parents are involved. Second, you can always put the baby up for adoption and some family that really wants to raise a child will give your child everything you may or may not be able to give right now. I think it is one of the hardest choices you will ever have to make, I don't think you should have an abortion if you don't want to, just remember, a child is way more work and commitment than people realize until after they have the baby. I have one child and his dad isn't in his life, if it weren't for my families support I don't know how I would have made it. Good luck on your decision. I think adoption would be the best option for you, you may want to look into it. All the best.


Lizzie - December 12

Honey, you should not care what others think of you, that baby inside of you was made for a reason. God had put that child in "YOU" for a reason. God has a plan for all people in this world, you just have to go with God puts in your life, in your case a wonderful new child. Because God wanted you to have that child, here read this scripture Jeremiah 1:5 " Now the word of the lord came to me saying: Before i formed you in the womb i knew you, before you were born; i consecrated you; a prophet ro the nations i appointed you". See God knew that this child would be born unto you so dont listen to anyone else but your heart and God.


Katy - December 15

if you really don't know what to do maybe you should talk to your parents. you say they will be gutted but maybe if you talk to them they will surprise you and maybe help. it sounds to me like your bf is trying to make his life easier by telling you to get rid of it and this other guy is actually putting you first. you have to ask your self if your bf is the right guy for you or this other guy from work is. once you've sorted that out then decide on if you want to keep the baby or not. it sounds to me like this guy from work is putting you first whereas your bf is only thinking of himself. in my opinion a child is a gift, a life maybe you should go through with the pregnancy and if you still don't want it then there is always adoption to consider.


Amy - January 10

yes it would be wrong to have an abortion. you should keep the baby. you never know the baby could grow up and make something of itself.


Sad - January 10

I want anyone who reads this to know that this is about YOU. I have had an abortion. I felt that I wanted to have it but I was 21 years old and my bf didn't want it at all and my dad would have disowned me because it would have been a mixed child. But I regret that with all of my heart and soul and now I have to live with this every day of my life. I dream about it all the time. What I am saying is that I have had an abortion and I understand what you are going through. Please do not let someone else make this decision for you. This is something that you have to live with for the rest of your life. If you feel that this is the best option for you then ok. But you are then one that can make the right decision!


aa - January 12

if i can give you advice keep the baby. abortion is sin. do not kill that little baby inside of you. if you dont want it there are thousands of people who cant get pregnant and want a baby. give it to them if you dont want the baby. that baby desirves all the love in the world. will you ever forgive yourself for getting a abortion?


zoey - January 12

hi amy i think the best thing for you to do is to follow ur heart at the end ov the day what ever you do is goin to stay with you for the rest ov ur life and ppl always ave an opinion wotever you do so just follow ur heart and you cant go wrong gd luckx


hello - January 24

KEEP IT and do a DNA test


Evelyn - January 24

Consider adoption. If you can't be a mother now, abortion is not your only choice. You have been giving the gift of life that many couples are not given. Share with them your gift!!! That is just one option. I am single and pregnant and in your shoes. Abortion was never an option for me, but I did consider Adoption. Please consider it too!! I wish you the best.



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