Help First Pregnancy

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aroloff87 - February 13

Okay..I'm 19..just found out I'm pregnant and have no idea what to do. I have no idea what I'm in for. A part of me wants to make the struggle and keep this child but I don't know if my boyfriend and I can financial take care of the child. Then a part of me says that I'm not ready to grow up. I know it is my fault for being irresponsible but I'm just so lost. I don't know how to tell my parents. I just would like some people's advice who have experience. I'm scared and excited all at the same time. I'm just torn, plus I really don't know if this is the man I want to be with the rest of my life and my dad left when I was 2 so I need to have the father in the life...I'm just so confused. Can someone please give me some insight???


babyonboard16 - February 13

I went through a lot of what you are right now, except for the dad part. I was scared, and I think it was just the other night I started to cry because I'm not ready to grow up. Think of it in this way, a child is a blessing, you can do it if you want to, and even if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with the guy, that doesn't mean he can't be a father. I wish you the best of luck in your decision making and if you need to talk my aim is bangimachipmunkx and my msn is ilovechris16 at hot mail dot com take out the spaces and all that jazz for the e-mail


Noodle - February 13

a child doesnt ruin your life, and its not a buden although that stigma has been attached. i know how you feel, but seriously when that baby is born your emotions fears and feelings completely change. your no longer scared to grow up, your scared to have this little baby and want to do everything you can to help it out. its such an amazing experience. and i wouldnt worry about the father or not the father thing at the moment. who knows he may surprise you! and if not dont worry, you can always get support from other sources


Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - February 13

You will be fine...the sooner you tell your parents the better they will help you. You need to start taking pre-natel vitamins. There are some at Wal-Mart and doctors do reccomend them as being a good brand. But I felt the way you did and everything is fine with both me and my husband now and everything worked out.


babii_boo91 - February 13

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ChattyKathy - February 13

Step 1. Buy prenatals at your grocery store. Step 2. pick an OB/GYN and schedule an appointment (if you have insurance). Step 3. talk with your boyfriend about when and how to tell your parents. It will be okay. If things don't work out between you and your boyfriend it doesn't mean he can't still be the father of your child. Don't stress about that. Your parents can wait to find out if you are still adjusting to the news, yourself, but you will need to tell them. You are 19 years old. You can do this.


hailey07 - February 13

I, too found out that I was pregnant when I was 19. I concieved with the man that I plan to marry, but unfortunately I miscarried the baby. Luckily, my boyfriend had made it through school, and was working in his job market, but i hadn't finished school. So we were about half way ready for a child. As for telling my parents, my mother and I are very close so she knew that I was going to take a pregnancy test, I have yet to tell my father about the baby or miscarriage. All in all it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. My mother supported us in our decision to keep the baby, and so did his parents, and even when we found out that I was miscarrying they were supportive and loving. I guess what I'm trying to tell you is that, it's not the end of the world,no matter what you decide to do, or how your parents react, or whether you're with the father or not: life still will go on. I think you'll find that people will be more supportive than you think. It will be okay, just take it step by step.


DownbutnotOUT - February 13

I found out i was pregnant when i was 21, currenlty unemployed, living at home with my mom, still with bf just different cities (well him city me town), and kinda being a leech. when i found out i was preggers I took full resposibilty considering me and bf ttc for 3 years and i was on bc and this was not expected at all! anywho me and dh did alot of growing up I got a job and so did he, my mom cosigned on an apartment, and we began making preperations to move in together. i thought at times we would never make it and thats a very common fear but that was over 5 years ago. me and DH are still together and have 3 kids, expecting our 4th in June, he has a great job and im a stay at home mom. sometimes you just have to take that chance and work your b___t off :)



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