My Boyfriend

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jaylee - July 20

Good day!! i had a boyfriend for more than 3 years... last month, i found out that he got another girl pregnant. the girl is now 3 months pregnant. i love him very much that's why i still accept him and forgive him. but after a week, he just said that the girl is wth her because her parents sent her away from home because they cant accept that thier daughter is pregnant. the parents of my boyfriend doesn't know about this. so the scenario is, weekdays they are together in one apartment and then weekends, we see each other. what should i do? do i have the right to tell to the parents of my boyfriend about this? please help// :'(


Grandpa Viv - July 20

It seems you want to keep this boyfriend in your life and you think telling his parents will help. Somehow I don't think that will happen, it will just make him mad at you. Your options are 1) dump the boyfriend - he will be paying child support for the next 18 years and playing some kind of two woman game which will make you all upset 2) hope that becoming a father will sour his other relationship, the girl's parents will take her and the grandchild back, and he will come back to you 3) negotiate some weird relationship where the three (soon four) of you will form some kind of extended family. I'm guessing that the boyfriend has finished school and has a job, but the ladies have not. It's a bit of a mess, but others have gone through it and survived. Make sure you don't get pregnant and further complicate the situation. Best of luck!


jaylee - July 21

Grandpa Viv, my boyfriend hs not yet finished his studies. the girl is not studying because she got pregnant. thanks for your advice. 


Grandpa Viv - July 21

What country is this - in America teen pregnancy is not the shame it once was. How small is your town? Who is paying for the apartment and living expenses - the girl's parents? Can he be living with her and hide that from his parents? Are her parents expecting the two of them to marry before the baby is born? When does he plan to tell his parents - he can't conceal this forever. Maybe you have an option 3b) tell him you understand he has to marry the girl and since the two of you have been childhood friends it is friends you can remain. That will be easier if you have not had sex together yet.


jaylee - July 21

we are from philippines. Just an update, my boyfriend leaves me already. he chooses the girl. and now i can tell his parents about what happened to him. it really hurts a lot..


Grandpa Viv - July 22

Jaylee, I'm sorry for your loss. Three years and now you have to start again. I'm sure there are guys out there who have wanted to know you better but have kept their distance out of respect for the existing relationship. You evidently are close to his parents. They also will be upset by this turn of events.



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