My Boyfriend Is 20 And I M14 Also I M Pregnant

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jasmine - June 30

Im wondering if i should keep the baby or not.I've talked 2 counselors and every thing but i havent decided yet. IM already 7 weeks pregnant. The worst part is that my boyfriend thinks I'm 17 but I'm only 14. He says the both of us arent ready 4 a baby and he wants me 2 get an abortion, but deep down i want to keep the baby. wut should i do?

 

lisa - June 8

hi, im almost in the same boat as you, im 16 and my boyfriend is 25. im almost 5months pregnant, at first i was shocked and didn't know where and who to turn to first, i told my family and boyfriend everything and they are very supportive, im really glad i kept our baby now, at the end of the day, it's not the baby's fault is it? tell someone who you trust how you are feeling and dont do something you dont want to do, because it's your body, your baby, and your life!! good luck... p.s ..it really isn't that bad!!

 

2547 - June 8

It's all up to you if you keep the baby or not but the questions are... what is a 14 year old doing with a 20 year let alone having s_x? Also, you shouldn't lie about your age...that was wrong. You kind of tricked the guy and that was not very nice. You need to tell him the truth and decide what you are going to do together. You are both very immature still. Guys don't usually mature until they are well into there 20's or 30's. Do your parents know? If not they'll know soon enough even if you don't tell them but I suggest that you do and you should also get prenatal care ASAP if you haven't already. I also don't see what any older guy would want to have anything to do with someone that is much younger than them especially since you aren't of legal age.

 

M47 - June 8

You aren't ready for a baby. You're still a baby yourself. You should have been more careful and you shouldn't have lied! You always have the choice to abort the baby, keep the baby, or give it up for adoption. Most young girls that have babies ruin their lives...usually they don't finish school, go to college, get a good career, or have time to hang out with their friends and people look down on them like they are trash. I don't think those things...I just think that young pregnant mothers are irresponsible and immature and should have been more careful. Being pregnant so young is also not healthy for you. There are risks when you are young and old when being pregnant. I also think that young pregnant women look kind of ridiculous. I'm sure you thought that before you got yourself in this situation. Just make sure that you talk with your boyfriend and tell him the truth and talk with your parents and make sure that you are getting prenatal care and if you decide to get an abortion then that is your choice.

 

dani(am a girl) - June 9

iam 16 and 6 mths. pregnant if you feel that you want to keep the baby keep it you have to tell him that youre pregnant if he is man anough to c_m in you hes man enough to take his responsibilties your going to have to make this decision no one else, people try to tell me to give it up but you can only hope for the better, good luck listen to your heart

 

celeste - June 10

See what lying gets you into. Stop trying to be grown and be a kid. A man who is willing to do the deed but not support the seed is a dead beat weed.

 

kay - June 12

you are just sick. and so is your boyfriend. sorry to bust your bubble, but, that 20 year old has better things to do than take care of the baby. or what he'd call your little brat.

 

COURTNEY - June 13

TALK TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUSTS AND ASK THEM WHAT THEY THINK YOU SHOULD DO. yOU REALLY NEED TO TELLL YOU BOYFRIEND YOUR TRUE AGE AND THAT YOUR EXTEREMLY SORRY FOR LYING AND THAT YOU'LL TRY YOUR HARDEST NOT TO GET HIM IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW BY YOUR PARENTS IF THEY DON'T KNOW. iT'S UP TO YOU IF YOU WANT IT YOU SHOULD KEEP IT. IF I WERE YOU I WOULD KEEP IT. I'M 15 AND MY BOYFRIEND IS 18 AND I'M 4 WEEKS PEG. AND EVEN THOUGH I'M GOING TO BE 16 IN LESS THAN 2 MONTHS AND WE DECIDED TO KEEEP EVEN THOUGHH THEY SAME GUESTION YOU HAVE WENT THROUGH OUR MINDS ALSO. I WANT MY BABY AND IF YOU DO YOU SHOULD KEEP IT AND JUST ASK HIM FOR MENTAL SUPPORT. GOOD LUCK !! I MYSELF COULDN'T LIVE KNOWING I TOOK AN INNOCENT LIFE , BUT THATS ME. I REALLY HOPE YOU KEEP IT AND GOOOD LUCK :)

 

ann - June 16

ok, honey. There are so many sides to this story and I am sorry you have to make this decision. I am also 14 and I cant imagine what you are going through, but I hope that you can get the help you need. I think that abortion is wrong, so I dont think you should do it. Also, the child didn't do anything wrong. If you love him, then you need to tell him how old you really are. Also, it doesn't matter what you want. He doesnt have to either give birth to a child or know that he killed a child within him. But if you dont love him, you need to tell your parents how old he is bcuz even if u were 17, your relationship is illegal. DOnt get him to make you kill your child. It is your decison. It wouldn't be terrible to have the child. If you cant handle it, put it up for adoption. Life will go on. Be stong. I know you can do it. I wish the best for you.

 

fuzzyb__tedmonky - June 16

its ur decision relaly and i know thats what everyone else is saying but if i were u i would keep the baby its the best thing that could ever happen to u even if u r young and as for ur age thing ... it happens dont worry about it tell him whether ur gonna keep it or not and how old u really r see if he wants to be involved and leave it at that unelss u wanna take him to court for child support. i wouldnt ever have an abortion but u r younger than me ... whatever u decide just dont wait to long to make ur decision or to tell ur parents ... i really dont think they'll take it to badly, very few do ... but if u ever wanna talk im here AIM - fuzzyb___tedmonky MSN - [email protected] YAHOO - wishingforsomuchmore

 

kay - June 16

keep it. dont murder it, or you will regret it. its your mistake, now make it right.

 

NIcole aka Nikki Lee - June 16

Never get rid of the baby her or she is a big part of you without your baby you will be nothing he or she is also a big part of the father if he dont want the baby then get with someone that wants to be the father of your baby. but anyways why did you lie about your age that could get you into trouble.

 

Beth - June 16

First of all, ignore M47. They have no reason to put you down like that. True, you shouldn't have lied about your age, but who hasn't at some point in their lives? You do what you feel is right. And remember to make sure that you have the right support, as it would be very difficult to raise a baby at your young age. I know a girl who got pregnant when she was only 15, and now she is an attorney, who loves her son, and has really made something of herself. I mean, come on! Loretta Lynn started having children at 14, and I don't think she's done too bad! Please really think twice about abortion though. If you want to have this baby and don't think you can give it a good life, remember that adoption is not a bad thing. And you can work it out so you can still see your child. I hope that your parents are there for you. Please take care of yourself, and really be careful next time you are with a guy.

 

Amber - June 27

You should keep the baby because the baby is so special to you and Does your boyriend want the baby? I think that you are ready for a baby. Please do not get an abortion because the abortions kills the babies. Dump your boyfriend if he does not want the baby. e-mail me back at:[email protected]

 

hello - June 27

If you really want the baby we both know that you won't terminate the pregnancy, regardless of what it does to the rest of your life. Not that i'm suggesting that you should abort, but I had to make this decision also when I was your age and sometimes I wish I had thought alot more about the future. As far as adoption being an option I think if you can stand to do it you will be giving your child a life that is better then anything you could do on your own.

 

Ashley - June 27

well ive been in ur position before if i were u i would get an abortion thts the best thing 4 u since u are so young because its a really hard job to take care of i was 14 and my stupid self was 2 hard headed to get an abortion i am 15 now and wish i would of had one because i regret it now its like my life is alwayz on hold i cant do anything or go anywhere and have fun and its gonna be hard on my baby because the father left me so please take my advice and get an abortion i know its hard but its prolly the best so u can live ur life and finish school if not ur gonna be like me and have 2 drop out because a baby needs more att_tion than u think

 

5678 - June 29

I can't stand that "If you're responsible enough to have s_x, then you're responsible enough to have a baby" c___p. There is nothing responsible about having s_x. If a guy c_ms in you it is not a responsible act. It's completely irresponsible on both your parts. There is nothing wrong with getting an abortion and waiting until you are responsible enough to handle the responsibilities of a child for at least 18 years. Jasmine, you can wait 10 years to have a child and still be a young mother. Finish school, hang out with your friends and travel the world before you make this big step.

 

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