Thank you Alivea for sharing your past experienced with us. It must been hard, wasn't it? I know. I understand. I had never experienced this whole trial of having kids at a young age or having a kid unprepared. I have learned a lot, however, through my siblings' mistakes, I would love to help other people by providing them the information they need and convincing them not to have kids at a young age. This especially goes for all the young teen out there. So I recommend people out there not to have kids until you are prepared, mature, responsible, independent, etc ... having to drop out of high school or not having a good high education level isn't a good start on becoming a parent. Sharing my siblings experience in this forum, I want to show other teens out there not to have a baby at a young age because it is really difficult. My three siblings: Mary, Adam, and Andy, all had to go through the step of coming forward and telling my dad that they or their girlfriend was pregnant; they had to do this while they were still at a young age and without a good high education level.
My oldest sister, Mary, who is now twenty - six years old had two babies; one girl and one boy by the age of twenty -one. From Vietnamese family's perspective, the age of twenty-one is still young because the need of continuing college and graduating with a degree is what all Vietnamese parents wish and expect for their children, in return for raising them, of course. Because my sister was young and had no guidance whatsoever, she took the wrong path towards her life. Due to my mother's addiction to gambling, our mother ended up leaving us; my sister, who is also a mother to us, had to work two jobs a day just to support the family. Living paycheck-to-paycheck, she soon decided to drop out of college and go to work full time. Her husband, on the other had, was a lazy guy and so their relationship didn't work out, leaving her with nothing but her two precious kids.
My oldest brother, Adam, who is now twenty-four, had a baby at the age of eighteen. He dropped out of high school during his junior year and decided to join a gang as the leader. Committing crime after crime (beating people up, jacking cars, robbing, etc...), and traveling from one jail to another, he soon realized what he had done was all a mistake; on top of everything else, having a baby at the age eighteen left him with child support to pay.
My youngest brother, Andy, who is now seventeen, had a baby at the age of sixteen with his girlfriend. Although he and his girlfriend are still continuing high school, they both still have to worry about the future for their kid. At such a young age they shouldn't be worrying about any of this. But, instead, they chose to be worried. Having a kid with no jobs and no money, they had to think positively and find a babysitter, so they decided to continue finishing their high school years, since his girlfriend's mother could baby-sit, but having a baby was a choice. Although they went through a lot of trials and tribulations, luckily they have made it through all the tough stages of raising a baby: providing her with food and clothes, staying up late at night, etc…
Because differences in others' perspectives about having kids at a young age, some are okay with having babies at a young age and dropping out of high school, some aren't. My purpose is to point out to others that having a baby at a young age is very difficult, Even if you are not young, without a high school diploma or a degree of some kind it is very hard to find a stable job.
People who do decide to have babies during their teenage years, please do reconsider because I am sure that your whole life would turn around within a matter of seconds. You're just taking the harder step into becoming a parent. Why not just wait until you reach around mid twenty's or thirty's and take care of it then. The majority of you would say "no" but would still choose to get pregnant. Once you're pregnant and finally realize everything was all a mistake, it will be too late to turn now. So please ACT now before it's too late.