31 Wks And Missing Him

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cindi - June 12

Hi everyone, My baby's father and I are not together.I ended things with him because he wont work, has not been proactive in this pregnancy,a nd a whole other list of reasons. Logically I know he is no good for me but I cannot help but miss him. It's gotten so bad and all I want is to be with him. My family hates him because of the way he has behaved during these last few months. I just wish he did not chose to do this. I wish he were supportive and there for me but he's not. My family has been great to me but it's not the same as having the man you love share the experience with you. I know i cannot be with him. He has to grow up and step up to the plate and that is something he has to do on his own. I have given him a million chances and nothing ever changes. I know I can do this and that I am strong but I must admit I miss the male companionship. Anyway, thanks for listening ladies.

 

Olivene - June 12

Cindi, I'm not sure what to say... I just wanted to offer you some encouragement. You are doing what you need to do and even though it is not easy, you should be proud of yourself for being strong enough. Do you believe everything happens for a reason? Maybe there is a much better,more fulfilling relationship (male companionship) around the corner for you. In any case,you'll have your lovely little one before long. Hang in there. It sounds like you made the right choice. This difficult time will be behind you someday.

 

GraphxGirl - June 12

Hi there Cindi, I am 35 weeks pregnant now and have gone through the entire pregnancy alone. The father of my baby ditched me after I got pregnant and is very immature. I still don't think he is accepting his baby boy coming into this world. I do have days and nights where I am so lonely and wish I had someone there but I like to think that when the time is right I will meet a guy who will accept me and my kids and love us. I know it is hard right now but try to think positive and just know that you are not alone in how you feel. Take care xx Hugz xx

 

ashley - June 12

This is probably the last thing I should be saying, but just wait until the baby is born. I went through a very similar situation with my daughter who is now 6. Her dad flaked on me (and we had been together a while!) after he found out about the baby. Bailed on the wedding, just was more concerned about his toys, etc. Well I went through the entire pregnancy with out him. I cried many nights. It hurt it hurt it hurt. I would call and harra__s him about being involved, I would make threats about child support etc. The only thing that changed him was seeing his brand new baby daughter for the first time. He fell in love with her. Though it didn't last for us. (my choice) we got back together after the baby was born and stayed together for a year, but i wanted to get married and he didn't and I put a lot of pressure on him and choose to end it. For a long time I regretted that choice because 18 months later I watched him marry another girl and have a child with her and I was so hurt and angry I thought I was going to die. But you know what... LIke Olivene says about things happening for a reason. I met my husband a couple years ago, fell in love, got married and now we are expecting a son. He adopted my daughter and life is good! Hang in there!

 

Been There - June 12

It's only human nature, especially since you're carrying his child right now. But as long as you remember you're doing the right thing for you both (you and the baby), you'll be fine. If he's not the right man, the right one will come along and you'll be very happy. Then you'll just see him as the sperm donor and nothing more. Be strong.

 

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