Can I Do It

9 Replies
Amanda - March 2

I am 30 weeks and am starting to feel scared about everything that is going to happen. I know this is normal, but I also don't know much about babies ( I am 22 ) and am scared that I won't know how to take care of it or mabe I won't be a good mom. I think that is why I cry alot. Do I have to be taught every thing or like everyone says will it just come to me? Please help.


Melissa - March 2

There are lots of books out there on infant and toddler care. Go to your local library or book store and get some to start reading up on the basics. Unfortunately, babies do not come with manuals. Believe it or not, when you hold that baby in your arms your Mothering instincts will kick in and you'll be fine. Remember, no one is a perfect parent, we all just do the best we can. Babies need lots of love, care and attention. You'll do great, try and relax.


Tasha - March 3

Hi Amanda, I am 23 nearly 24 and 35 weeks along and scared also. But like Melissa said I think that when we see that little one that everything is just going to fall into place. And as for crying all the time it is your hormones because I am the exact same. But I am not sure about it getting better after the baby comes because you are busy. I know that your hormones go into overdrive again once you have given birth. That is what scares me the most. Well I am sure that you are going to be just fine, cuz I think that I will do fine. Hopefully that helps you a bit.


Paula - March 4

I think if you do a lot of reading and ask a lot of questions, you will be fine. I'm 38 weeks with my first and I'm not a big believer in "mothers instincts". Of course you will know a lot of what to do because most of it is common sense and hopefully you will have help from friends and family but don't expect to know everything right away. There is a learning curve so don't feel like you're a bad mom if you're not psychic and can't tell right away the difference between an "I'm hungry cry" or a "pick me up" cry (or the billion other cries). Good luck to you and hopefully to me too!!


Amanda - March 4

Thank you everyone!!


D - March 8

I am 39 weeks and I am freaking out too. i have never even changed a diaper and have never been around babies before....I'm not sure how i am going to do it since my mom lives in another state and my husband works a lot...I dont have any friends to help me out I will be all on my own. good luck to you and me too hopefully.


To D - March 9

Maybe there are some mothers' groups in your area that you could join? That's gotta be a scary situation for you. I'm single so I know how lucky I am to have my mother living with me. My sister and best also live very close. I don't think I would be so confident if they weren't here. Good luck and I hope you find someone close to you that you can lean on a little bit.


Mollie - March 10

Heck, I'm 32 and my fiance is 30; we haven't the first clue what to do with a baby, but I'm due in about 4 weeks. I felt really good when my fiance's mother said to me, "I didn't know what I was doing when I had him, either." I think it's realistic to be a little scared. If you aren't, you're probably in a fantasy world, and things will be even harder for you.


Paula - March 11

I am a believer in 'mothers insticts', I was 18 when i had my first, and yes i was nervous like you all. But it came right to me. I didnt have to be tought everything, but i did get some help with b___stfeeding. Please dont worry, I can tell that you will be an excellent mom because of how much you care. You will do great!


Katie - March 17

can i go tanning?



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