Terrified Of Labor Of Baby S Health Of Being A Mom

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Lu - December 20

I just wish I could relax...As I enter the last few weeks I have become a nervous wreck and I am taking it out on the people I love. I am so scared that I won't be able to handle the pain of labor, that I won't get a healthy baby after all of this, and that I won't be ready to be a mom......Okay....breathe......Please tell me I am not the only one to feel like I am going to hyperventilate when I think about the end of this pregnancy....


BB - December 20

Don't worry Lu you are certainly not alone. I don't think you would be human if you didn't worry. You can handle the pain of labor...your body was made to do it..it is your birth right and something women have been doing since the beginning of time! I am the biggest worry wart on the face of the earth. I think we need to get used to worrying from here on out because we are mommys! Please try not to get too stressed out. And remember you are certainly not alone!


Jaci - December 20

Hi Lu! I know how you feel. I was freakin' out about labor around 7 months, but now that I only have 3 days left until my due date...I'm SOOOOOOOO ready. My body aches/hurts 24/7. I don't even get psyched up about labor anymore and how painful it is going to be. I just know that it's not going to be a walk in the park. I've been preparing myself mentally by keeping a positive att_tude and not freakin' about it. Who knows...maybe it won't be so bad after all. All I know is that I am going to have an epidural and ask if I can have some stadol for my nerves (I have anxiety & panic attacks which in turn flares up my asthma...yeah!). A friend of mine just had a baby last week and had stadol. She said it was great. It takes the edge off things....kind of makes you loopy like you're buzzing. That's what's keeping me going...knowing that there will be help with the pain! Just keep your chin up...be strong...take the pain / fear head on...you have to be in charge...not the pain. Be strong girl! AND PRAY LOTS! :) I was fine all the way up to about 38 1/2 weeks....now I'm so d__n sore and miserable...I can't walk, sit, sleep...ANYTHING without being in pain. Every time my lil' guys moves his head he hurts me down below....whenever he moves his feet/legs it feels like I'm being hallowed out like a pumpkin. I don't know if that is the case with every pregnant woman, but I think it's made me be able to handle pain a lot better and prepare me for what's ahead. How far are you by the way?


Heather - December 21

Lu - I completely agree with the other 2 posts. This is my second child and I'm still stressed about the labor thing again. I somehow managed to forget my other experience - I guess that is a good thing and something for us all to look forward to! You may all think that I'm crazy, but I have absolutely no recollection of the pain & I didn't even have any pain medication!!! Don't get me started on the "being a mom thing"! I know I can do it, I mean I am doing it right?! But I'm totally stressed out now about weather or not I can be a good mother to 2 beautiful little girls. I mean how in the world can I take the incredible amount of love and devotion I have for my daughter and duplicate that for another child. I mean can my heart handle that? Can I spend as much time with both? Will one feel left out. I thought until about 2 weeks ago (I'm 34.5 weeks but being induced at 39) that this would be a piece of cake because I had done it before. I finally realized I'm playing an entirely new game. So, after all of my rambling, I just want to say that you are completely normal and far from the only one!


Lu - December 21

Thanks ladies...I am feeling better already. My hormones were totally out of whack last night anyways and hormones tend to manifest in anxiety first. I can't believe I am already at 32 weeks! I rememeber, when I was in the first trimester and just thinking I would be so lucky to be this far...and here I am and baby seems totally fine and healthy. I have a lot to be thankful for. I am so glad to have the support of this forum! <hugs>


Meredith - December 25

I just gave birth two days ago, and fully planned on an epidural. I was scared to death of delivering naturally, but I had to go without pain relief because of how quickly my labor progressed. I am not trying to scare anybody, I just want to say that yes it is bad, but if I did it, anybody else can. I never in a million years thought I would be in that position, but there I was, and I did what I had to. Once she came out, it was like - instant - everything was better. I also feel good that everything was as nature intended. If I have a third child, I would still try to get the epidural, of course. :-) Don't stress about labor, it is scary, but your little one has to come out and you will do your best, and once it is done, you will be thinking more about your baby. I was screaming when I pushed her out, but as soon as I felt her come out, I looked down and - whoa! - my baby was there...I can not even describe that feeling...it is worth it.


dwc - December 27

You are not the only one that feels that way. I feel the same, and I already have one precious dd. I actually feel like I may not be a good mom, even thought I already can prove to myself that I can do it. You can do this and so can I, so I am sending well wishes to everyone. Good luck and keep us all posted. Love those baby stories!


Jillian - December 27

I feel the EXACT same way. I take comfort in knowing that I'm not the only one that feels this way! :)


hb - December 28

dear lu, my son was born oct. 25th (4 weeks early). I went through much of the same feelings that you are experiencing right now. However, you will be just fine. the pain of giving birth is definitely hard. I thought i wouldn't be able to handle it, and eventually I said, "GIve me drugs!!!" you will know when your body has had enough, and you will let them know:) I am sure your baby will be perfect. If you want my opinion, the birth is hard, but adjusting to being a mommy is even harder. Again, this is only based on my experience so far. I found it very hard the first few weeks. You are very sleep deprived and i think that had a lot to do with my mood swings and frustration. No matter what troubles you, always communicate with loved ones, it helps. being a mother is by far the hardest thing i've ever had to do, but the most rewarding and amazing experience! I wouldn't change it for the world. I know you will be an excellent mother. good luck.


Lu - December 28

Thanks ladies for your rea__suring words....I am now really waiting forward to our little girl being here. I just want to hold her in my arms.



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