Touching Of The Belly

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tish212 - October 19

ok I am a "space" person... I have a personal bubble around me and I hate when people come into it...ya know strangers get like right in ur face to talk..or stand way too close to u in line at the grocery store? what I want to know is why people automatically assume b/c ur pregnant and showing that they can just come up to you and touch ur belly! I have had so many strangers walk up to me and put their hands on me.... it drives me INSANE I don't walk up to strangers to touch them... and I never walked up to a pregnat woman to touch her belly. it just creeps me out...and then they all have stories or opinions..I haven't found out the gender b/c I already know my induction date so I want something to be a surprise. but everyone is an expert...oh its a boy cuz ur carrying low...oh its a girl cuz from behind u can't tell ur pregnant...or they start telling me stories about how their cousins friend knows a woman who went into labor here or there...and had their baby right there...I just don't understand does being pregnant somehow put a big sign on u that reads please touch my stomach...or please share ur expertise with me? I don't mean to come off sounding mean but honestly it drives me insane its gotten to the point I was so aggravated with this creepy guy that came up and put his hands on my belly...that I put my hands on his (he had a potbelly) and asked him when he was due...he gave me a disgusted look and walked away...I'm really not a mean person but I respect my space and the space of others....anyone else sick of people touching their bellies? oh and how come everyone thinks u can make the baby kick on demand...? my lo kicks when s/he feels like it not just because some stranger wants to feel him/her kick but people will sit there with their hands on my stomach saying things like make it kick...WHAT!? my baby is not a dog..it is not "trained" to perform tricks on demand...sorry this is so long seems the further I get into this pregnancy the more I need to vent...thanks...

 

inuk-mama - October 19

oh you are not the only one!!! I HATE when all these people are coming up to me and putting their hands all over my belly! I want to slap most of them! Thankfully I haven't had any strangers do it or they might just walk away with a nice fat lip! But I get all the time from people here in our office, "Is she kicking yet?" and "can you make her kick?" so now even if she is kicking, I say no. The only people I want touching my stomach are me, DH, my kids and dr. that's it! Everyone else can go get pregnant themselves if they want a belly to touch! Trust me, I wanted to make a shirt a few weeks ago that said, "touch me and die" A little overboard but I was seriously in no mood for anymore belly rubs!

 

Kiersten - October 19

Ha-Ha!!! You two are a hoot! lol :) Same belly blues here. Thankfully it's not strangers who are doing the rubbing (eww!) but on the other end, it's people we know and see all the time. Inuk, if you ever find a shirt like that, let me know. I want one too! lol It's annoying now that I'm further along because the BHs and "growing pains" make my belly hurt and it drives me BONKS when they back me into a corner and start rubbing me! Sometimes I feel like I should be getting a treat for doing a trick or something. The preggo belly is an absolute m-a-g-n-e-t it seems. I don't know if these women forget what it's like to be pregnant or if they actually liked being rubbed constantly! I usually rest my hands on my belly or turn to try to make it hard (er) for them to get to me. Run! Run! :) If I still could I would! Waddle, waddle...

 

jennifer_33106 - October 19

OH!!! I am only 22 weeks but i get that even now!! I freakin HATE HATE HATE IT!!! I like my bubble and dont want anybody popping it. haha but I wanted to give you guys this site to go to. They have some awesome maternity shirts and they have the ones that say Touch my belly and DIE! haha they are so cool it is..... cafepress.com/buy/maternity GL guys and hopefully you find something!

 

inuk-mama - October 19

lol Kiersten! *waddle waddle* NO kidding!! They must have forgot what the belly touching was like. I can't see how anyone would willingly stick out their stomach for a daily rub down! It seems to be my boss who does most of the rubbing and it is driving me nutz! She doesn't have any kids of her own and always talks about not wanting them but then as soon as she sees me it's like a stampede!!! And the part time girl here comes in and the once and a while that I do happen to see her she will start talking to me and start rubbing like it's the most natural thing on earth! How about no!!!! I am so beyond the belly rubs! Tish, I love that you rubbed his stomach back!! LOL That's awesome! I'll have to try that next time!!! :)

 

Kiersten - October 19

Inuk: That stinks that it's your boss who's the worst! Makes it kind of awkward to tell her you need your space! There's one older lady that my dh and I take to church who suffered a stroke a couple years ago and lost her short term memory. She's by FAR the worst one who does it to me because she'll come up behind me, put her arms around me and just start talking and rubbing like there's nothing weird about putting an 8 month pregnant lady in a hold and giving her a rub down. Augh!! :) I whine to dh all the time about people doing it to me, but honestly I'd feel too bad saying anything (especially with her because she'd forget two minutes later!) or making a big deal out of it. I just keep reminding myself that I'm almost there and soon it will be over. Although a friend of mine still got rubbed by this lady AFTER she had her little girl! She's by NO means big, but she just thought she was being nice and not even two weeks after delivery she rubbed her belly while she was telling her how beautiful she looked! I thought my friend would die! After Mrs. ____ walked away she leaned towards me and asked me if she should remind her that she already HAD the baby and maybe she just forgot! lol Oh, poor Jennifer! You have a while to go too...haven't checked out that site yet, but I feel for you girl! And the bigger you get, the more they're drawn! I sucked it in as long as I could! Ha-Ha!

 

tish212 - October 19

all my friends say I'm "blunt" so I just did the first thing that came to my mind..he had a belly andi had one so since he decided it was ok to touch mine I figured I'd see how he liked it lol... I am really tired of it though...and I have a shirt that I got that has happy bunn on it and says super uncomfortable thanks...in hopes it woul stop people from asking all the time how I'm doing...I'm big a round in the belly...I also waddle...and my back aches all the time...so I think the shirt sums it up...my baby kicks a lot but I don't offer his/her kicking as a novelty experience for others....like I said s/he's not a circus animal performing tricks... I also have people that ask all the time can they see my belly...and of course my answer is no...its covered in stretch marks...and well they bother me a lot so why would I wanna show em off?! I agree that if these people wanna touch a belly they should go get pregnant themselves...lol... its so crazy though going to the grocery store cuz the worst about touching my belly are women with infants of their own...did they forget how it feels? or maybe they liked it? glad to see I'm not the only one put off by all this touching lol... (oh and on a funny note the hubby wanted taco bell the other day...and I went to sit down and I could just fit in the little chair...my belly was against the table...lol it was so funny I sat down looked down and dh noticed I was hitting the table he grinned but then tried to hide it and be all sweet and loving...I couldn't stop laughing...if my stomach sticks out this far at almost 30 weeks will I even be able to fit through a doorway by 40weeks? lol)

 

lmk - October 19

Too funny! I don't mind the talking part, but I definitely don't appreciate anyone putting their hands on my belly. I've seen plenty of pregnant women, and it's never occurred to me to touch their belly. Even my mom doesn't touch my belly...she thinks that's weird. It's like do people think I'm the big jolly Buddha and touching my belly is good luck?

 

jessieb - October 20

Put me down for belly touching drives me crazy!!! I hate hate hate it too! I am with Kiersten, it is people i know that do it. Not so much strangers (maybe it's becuase we live in a small town and I know everyone!! LOL!!) The worst is my MIL, she will come over to my house or business and just stand there with her hand on my belly!!! TALKING to the baby, with HER nickname for it. We didn't find out what I am carrying so she took it upon herself to call it 'little bit', which I loathe as well. I have removed her hand, I back away, I sit so she can't get to it, I hold stuff in front of me, I tell her how it bugs me when people touch me. She doesn't get it, she thinks she is granted a pa__s since she is MIL or something! My own mother touched me once, when I TOLD her to. The baby was kicking and I said 'mom, do you want to feel it?' I just can't believe that people just touch someone else's belly like that! I really can't believe that the general rule on thumb is not 'look but don't touch'. Likewise, I have NEVER EVER touched a pregannt belly that wasn't mine. I only have a few weeks left but am considering purchasing a shirt too : )

 

MRHabetz - October 20

Oh yes!! The belly rubbing is the worst!! I too have people mostly that I know that touch it and I try to pull away and they look at me like I'm crazy!! I finally asked one guy in a cla__s I'm taking, why he was touching me and he said to feel it kick!! I yelled at him and said there was NO kicking going on and I would let him know if I wanted him to touch me!! UUUGGGHHHHH!!! My boyfriend laughs because I also want to know that why just because I'm pregnant does EVERY stranger want to talk to the pregnant lady?? Do they care how far along I am? Do they care if I have other kids?? Do they honestly care when I'm due or how I'm feeling?? NNNNOOOOOOO!!!! Anyway, the boyfriend said that everyone wants to talk to the pregnant lady cause it's quite obvious that she "puts out"!! LOL

 

CJMITCH44 - October 20

Ha! Even my husband treads lightly in the belly rubbing area--It makes me queasy for some reason if my belly b___ton is touched--anybody else experience this? I have to be careful even washing it !! I think if a stranger tried it I would unload...

 

LIN - October 20

You know, I seriously think that people who don't like to be touched are magnets for it. I personally don't care - people can rub my belly all they want - but they don't! Not one person has tried to rub my belly (aside from my hubby and mom) this entire pregnancy. Someone come rub my buddha belly!

 

Kiersten - October 20

You guys are great! Ha-Ha!!! LIN! I'll send you my personal rubbers, guaranteed to try to get three wishes out of you! lol Jessieb, I hear you on the "thinking they have a pa__s". None of our family lies near us right now (we're moving closer after graduation and baby) but it's friends who think that they're somehow exempt from the "personal space rule". CJMITCH, yes! What is it about the belly b___ton?! My dh thinks it's so cute because mine hasn't popped, it just looks v-e-r-y stretched and deep. He loves touching it and putting his finger in it, but I can't stand it! I don't know why and he thinks I'm just being a pill about it so it's good to hear I'm not alone! lol MRHabetz, thankfully it's not men who do the touching. But I think the women who do it to me think they have a special right because they've done the baby thing before and feel it's just the norm. I think my dh would clobber any guy who tried to touch me!! :) Tish, too funny about not fitting anywhere! I'm always bumping into things, misjudging just how big I am, or spilling things ALL over my belly. I swear I cannot get through one meal without being able to look at my shirt afterwards and tell what I've eaten! Terrible! i ought to wear a bib! Hope you ladies have a wonderful day. Thanks for the laughs and keep on smiling and sticking out your buddah bellies!! Except of course when the rubbers are near...

 

Kiersten - October 20

Hi Imk! I'm sorry I missed you! You should get a shirt that says "baby in the belly NOT a genie in a lamp" lol

 

CJMITCH44 - October 20

I have a funny story about not fitting in-thru certain spaces anymore..well it's funny now, it wasn't at the time. I was bartending during my first pregnancy when I went in to the walk -in fridge to do the beer order. I was in there for maybe ten minutes. During that time, one of the cooks must have moved some stacked beer kegs over in a way that I could no longer fit out of the door! I eventually got "rescued" but man that was embarra__sing! Also in underestimating the size of my belly, I got a nice long burn while reaching up into a cabinet over a hot pan..be careful everyone!! :)

 

tish212 - October 20

yeah I am a shorter person...so about 2 weeks ago I was doing laundry while dh was at work...I tried to reach in to get the clothes and realized my stomach kept me far enough back I couldn't reach into it! I tried everything lol I eventually had to get a step stool to reach in I also can barely reach my sink...so doing dishes I have to stand on a stool. lol my lo just likes being noticed at all times...lol guess that's why my stomach sticks out as much as it does...s/he doesn't want me to forget even for a minute that s/he's there...lol oh and something else funny...if anything causes pressure against my stomach me lo kicks nonstop until it moves and I was babysiting my nephew a few weeks back (hes a month old) while I was holding him to feed him my lo kicked him nonstop! guess s/he gets jealous...my cat won't even sit in my lap anymore cuz when he does the baby kicks him.... and he just looks up at me like why'd u do that?

 

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