3 Year Old Stopped Using The Toilet After New Baby Came

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Whitney - July 30

Hi there, I have a 3 year old son & 2 1/2 week old daughter & I think my son may be having trouble adjusting to the change of a new baby. He's not mean to her, or upset with us & he actually doesn't even act jellous either. But he was totally potty trained for ( able to go both pee & poo on the toilet & would tell us every time he had to go ) about 2 or 3 weeks before she was born. Then it seemed like the second we brought her home he started going in his underwear again. It is extreamly frustrating as every single day I have to clean poop from his underwear & he doesn't even tell us when he has ... he'll just walk around with poop in his underwear until I discover it, & I know he knows better then that. I have read that this can happen when a new baby is brought home & just really don't know how to deal with it. Will it just pas after a few weeks? My husband has been scolding him & wants to give him a time out every time he goes in his underwear - I really don't know what to do. We have also tried rewarding him with stickers & lots of praise when he goes in the toilet, but again he hasn't gone once since we brought her home. Any advice would be great!!!


kimberly - July 31

Congrats on your new baby girl! I have heard of kids doing this because of a change in the home, but I have never dealt with it. All I can say is to start the training process all over again. Consistantly take him in to use the potty and reward him for going. I think scolding him will only hinder the process more, instead praise him and tell him how special it is to be the Big brother. Even if he don't act jealous, he obviously is feeling either jealous or left out. Get some story books about potty training and make it fun to learn for him. Try spending a few minutes with just him and not the baby and do something he feels is just your and his special thing together. Once he realizes he is not being replaced and you and his dad still love him just as much, he will adjust. It is just such a huge disruption in thier little world when suddenly a new baby comes home. Good luck!



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