Should I Be Scared

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Carla - November 24

I am 24 years old and 7 weeks pregnant, the baby will be due when I am 25 years old. I am in a stable relationship and see him as the man I am going to marry. I have travelled the world and been to college and before I fell pregnant (which was NOT planned at all) I thought I wanted a baby but now that it is a reality I am really scared and don't know what I want. I have lived overseas for 2 years and been to many countries but there was still more places I wanted to see. We do have money behind us but not as much as we wanted to. Has anyone else been in this situation? Please give me some advice, how did things turn out? I am really confused and scared and just want to know if everything will be ok.


Carla - November 24

Also, a big concern if that we wanted to do it thr right way- we wanted the romantic engagement and wedding and first years of marriage alone before having babies but now I won't be able to do it in that order and it makes me sad in a way. I am worried I may regret things and find everything hard.


CG - November 24

Carla, being pregnant is scary! I've been married almost 13 years, have a 7 year old, and am 6 weeks pregnant (planned). I'm scared to death! I keep thinking did we do the right thing? Gosh how are things going to change? All kinds of thoughts. But, I know that when I had my daughter 7 years ago (after having those exact same thoughts) I couldn't imagine life without her. She has made me and my husband smile so many times, if God Forbid she were taken from me now, there would be a lifetime of happy memories! You can still do all the things you want to do, you just have to take a diaper bag with you now. And believe me, It's WAY more fun to do and experience things with your child! And every life is precious and God knows that child and has a plan for it's life. And for your's! Jesus will guide you through every step! All you have to do is trust Him! Don't be scared! Just know that in less than 9 months, you are going to hold a baby in your arms, and you will love it so much, you won't be able to think of anything else! That child will be the MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life! Good luck and God Bless You!


Carla - November 25

Thank you CG, your words are very rea__suring. I know deep down you are right, I guess none of us can plan every little detail of our lives & sometimes you just need to go with it. Of course I am still having a million different thoughts run through my mind but your kind words have made me feel much better. God Bless you also xx


CG - November 25

Carla, I forgot to tell you that I too was 25 when I had my daughter. I'm now 32. So I really was where you are. The only difference was I hadn't travelled the way you have and I was married at 19. I understand wanting the romantic engagement and marriage and all that, I really do, but I'm also standing on the other side of that, and it's nice to have, but it's not that big a deal. Years down the road, when you look back at it, it's not as big on this side, as it is on your side. My advice would be (this is what I would do if I could do it again) Have a wedding big enough to have everyone you care about there but small enough to really savor and enjoy every minute! Then have an AWESOME party for your reception with all your friends. Then take a really romantic long HONEYMOON! That's the best memory I have! Then after that baby comes and you get over the sleep deprivation.....hop a plane and travel! And trust me, you never have enough money! It doesn't matter if you're a millionaire! The more you have the more you want to give that baby! But they really don't need all that much! :O} I hope my little bit of advice helps! If you'd like to keep in touch, you can email me @ [email protected] . I'd love to know how it turns out!


Ashley - November 25

Carla- Being organized and a successful person and a planner like you seem to be can tend to make you a___lyze things a little too much. Yes, your life is going to change and yes it's scary. But it is worth it. When you hold that baby for the first time you'll realize that the other things really didn't matter that much. And you'll be so happy. Just try to take it easy and enjoy your pregnancy its a miraculous thing. Take it day by day and have faith. Everything is going to be ok. It's only natural to have all sorts of doubts. Just don't let them talk you into doing something you'll regret later. I'm 25yrs old and I'm 6wks along and very nervous also. We were just married 3 months ago and were trying to concieve but now it's very real and yes it is scary and makes you wonder if your doing the right thing.Good luck to you.



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