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The Dont's of Potty Training

Don't Start Too Soon:
Again, there’s no particular age limit when a child is ready to toilet train, although 18-24 months is common. Forcing your child into toilet training could cause frustration for everyone, so leave the decision up to him and watch out for signs that he's ready.

Don't Start in the Face of Obstacles:
If you're planning a huge move, are giving birth or any other disturbances in daily life are affecting your child, then don’t start toilet training just yet. Toddlers like routines, and changes in their daily life are likely to impede their progress. So wait until all is calm. Check out these child development skills to know if your child is ready to potty train.

Don't Use Pressure:
Whether your child has started toilet training or not, it’s never a good idea to pressure him into achieving results faster. Pressure will put your child on edge, which could cause him to hold back stool, leading to constipation. It's a vicious cycle, so don't go there.

Don't Use Punishment:
This is probably the most important 'don't.' There will be things to get frustrated or even angry about: accidents, slow progress or regression. Don't let it affect how you treat your child. Getting angry will only frighten and upset your child and cause major delays or set backs. Always be reassuring and calming when things go wrong. That way he'll want to please you and will feel happy about progressing.

Don't Necessarily Listen to People's Advice:
Trust me, you'll get lots of advice. Just saying the phrase ‘potty training’ is like a silent dog whistle for veteran parents. You'll have parents within a certain mile radius giving you tips and sharing their stories, which is wonderful. But their tips won't necessarily work for your child. It's best to roll up your sleeves and enter your toilet training experience treating each child individually. Don't feel like you have to compare your child's progress to the Smith's next door.

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